“To the guys,

If due to finances, your only two options for a first date (with someone who has made it very clear with their words and actions that they are into you and you feel the same) was to either allow her to pay or you not go at all, which would you do and why?”

99% of the guys decided to run with a third non included option of a cheap “creative” date. However, when forced to only select one of the two options provided, all chose not to go out at all. I chose the same. The reason for me is one parts pride and one part man law, I believe with all my heart while courting that for at least the first four dates you are responsible for paying (Tip and all). Small exceptions for things like her purchasing some movie tix because she arrived before you or surprising you with an activity that you mentioned in passing you were interested in aren’t bad. Brownie points for taking notes. Don’t get me wrong I think the financial burden shouldn’t be yours alone forever, when in a relationship I’m perfectly fine with her “getting it this time” and later on in dating with the rule of “the person who asks pays”, but those first few dates are about your position as the man, the provider, and hunter. You are courting her, showing her your worthiness as a potential suitor. Not the other way around and I think if you mess with that dynamic you are always doomed to be stuck in the new reality you’ve created. If I expect you to be the woman in the relationship and handle all the things that come with that role, I should expect no less of myself and my duties as the man in the relationship. As one of my guys who responded to my query said “If you broke, you shouldn’t be dating “or the dad in house party 3 “No romance without finance!”

Uhm, why does Jozen have a “pocketbook” and not a wallet?!?!

Be sure to put a wallet on your shopping list when you do retain to the world fo gainful employment, it’ll work wonders with the ladies