Comments on: The One Who Got Away

By: Annelli

Annelli — Fri, 10 Dec 2010 18:05:00 +0000

I don’t think God has anything to a choices that we make in our lives and we have to stop thinking that just because, a relationship didn’t work out that God had something to do with it, that it wasn’t meant to be or they were the one who “got away.” Often times people put they’re lives on auto pilot…they think that things are just suppose to “happen” without any positive effort on they’re part. As a man thinketh in his heart so is he….that is a quote from the Bible. People often attract into they’re lives what they’re dominate thoughts and feelings are….change how you think and you will change your life. No one else is resp. for making you feel a certain way…if a person has had more than one failed relationship they need to take a look at themselves, they need to clear the sub-conscious and conscious mind of all negativity, unproductive beliefs and negative exp. and replace them with positive, loving and grateful thoughts…it is also important to feel good, to feel warm, to be detach to the outcome…..

By: Annelli

Annelli — Fri, 10 Dec 2010 17:39:00 +0000

It is possible for someone to be “the one” and still get away or be pushed away. When people say “if it was meant to be, it would be” ….leaving they’re life up to chance….we are the engineers of our life…we create the type of life we want, so if you have a great person who loves, honor, respects and cherishes you, but you take them for granted, leave them or push them away…how can you then turn and make claim that they were not the one when you didn’t even try in the first place? When you didn’t give the relationship a fair shot? It would be like someone saying they didn’t pass the bar exam therefore it wasn’t meant for them to attend law school..knowing full well that they never tried or made the effort to pass the Bar to begin with. Relationships of any kind require effort…positive effort that is. If you want that raise or promotion on your job, you can’t sit back and think “well…if it is meant to be, it will be” and sit back doing everything unproductive, doing things that will not get you that raise or promotion…you have to put in the effort and show your boss, show the company that you worth the raise and the promotions.

By: sb

sb — Wed, 05 May 2010 11:36:02 +0000

awww, i feel the same way…thank you for putting my perspective into words & hope the best for you….sometimes when you love someone it hurts so much to walk away.

By: I G

I G — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 20:10:02 +0000

This is my first time reading your posts. Your candor is refreshing. I agree with a few people here, God will lead the way. In the mean time you have to make a lesson of every situation. The day I met an ex, I said to myself I’m going to marry him. Clearly, he is in an ex but we have grown to be very close friends over the years. We live in different cities but often discuss dating and possibly marrying each other. I sometimes wonder how my life would be different if we had stayed together through the years. A couple that started dating the same time we did is still together, married and with child. But there is no point in wondering. I can’t change the past and perhaps this is the right path…the path that enables both of us to appreciate each other more.

In the mean time, in the words of Erykah Badu – “all you have to do is hold on to you…so pack light”

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By: Vanessa

Vanessa — Thu, 08 Oct 2009 00:41:43 +0000

Great post Jozen!

My ‘one’ got away and got married last year. I’ve always wondered if I was wrong for letting our relationship end, but I rest assured on the fact that if it is meant to be- it will be. I’m certain that when our relationship dissolved I was not ready to return to the ‘safety’ of a committed relationship. Especially after being together for almost three years; I was not prepared to yet again hold myself to the standards of a committed relationship. I’ve often wondered if the grass was truly greener on the other side?!?!? It is a question that I cannot answer. But what I do know is that right now, he is happy and so am I. He will forever have a special place in my heart and I hope that my memory rests peacefully with him too. Everything in life happens for a reason. Holding on to the past with resentment does nothing but keep you from your future!

By: Danielle D

Danielle D — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 13:54:27 +0000

If someone is “the one that got away” then how are they “the one”?

By: Dell

Dell — Sun, 04 Oct 2009 20:13:30 +0000

I really liked this story because it exposes the one mistake we can all so easily make and how close we all are to losing “the one”. Unfortunately, knowing, “you don’t miss the water to the well runs dry”, isn’t a lesson learned until it’s too late. What I would like to know is how those that haven’t made this mistake got it right. Is it because they were able enjoy the water in the well although, it seemed bottomless? How flawed we are as humans to deny even ourselves from such bounty or maybe it is in God’s perfect design to have us have this experience for the benefit of learning humility. I don’t think “the one who got away” is really that at all…they are the hindsight that we need for when “the one” shows up.

By: Dera

Dera — Sat, 03 Oct 2009 08:33:52 +0000

Great post. A hard lesson learned. It took a lot to bear your soul. This experience will make you a better man for the ONE.

By: Coretta

Coretta — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 23:20:43 +0000

I’ve only recently discovered your blog, but it is articles like this that will keep me coming back. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Very interesting. As well as the conversation afterwards.