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A Letter To The Ex Girlfriend Who Cheated On Me

October 19th, 2009 Leave a comment Go to comments

Dear Ex Girlfriend Who Cheated On Me,

I don’t know who you are or what you’re doing right now, but I just want to let you know when you cheated on me, you were wrong. I don’t know exactly when you did what you did or who you did it with or where you did it or even how you did it, but I know you cheated on me. I know this because if I have said it once, I have said it a thousand times, Mama ain’t raise no fool.

You think I’m so clueless as to believe you didn’t go behind my back and do a little something with some guy? Let me answer that question with another question.

Do I look stupid to you?

Even if I can’t prove how or when you cheated on me, my gut tells me to believe you did. Back in the day, I used to think, No way, not her. She would never cheat on me. I’m too good of a man to do such a thing. I used to beat my chest and tell all my friends, “I ain’t ever had a girl cheat on me!”

Now it all sounds like some naive young man talk.

I’ve grown up. I’ve seen some things, and when I say things, I mean scandalous, hush-your-mouth type of things from the most wholesome of women. In some cases, I was even a participant in these scandalous things. A hard pill to swallow, for sure, but I’m a man, I can take it. I realize I have made mistakes of epic proportions, if not with you with another woman. Therefore I probably deserved whatever you did, much as it makes me cringe to say that.

But as Jay-Z said, “You don’t get a n**** back like that!”

Why did you have to do what you did with the guy that you did it with? What was it that made you cheat on me in the first place? Was it because I did it to you and you wanted revenge? Maybe I never cheated on you in the first place, but you just couldn’t help y0urself. Was that it? Did you feel entitled to do it because someone else once did it to you? Did you feel better about yourself after it was done?

All these questions are rhetorical.

I don’t really care what you’re reasoning is, because no matter which way you cut it, cheating on me was foul. Foul. Foul. Foul. Foul. FOUL.

And like I said before, I still don’t know who you are, still have never found out exactly what happened, but do me one favor: Keep it that way.

Sincerely Yours,



Don’t do it again. Thanks.


This letter applies to you too, future ex-girlfriends!

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  • LinZ

    soo wait…how did you know? did she let something slip?
    How are you sureeeee????

  • Danielle D

    This is like Usher’s Confessions except the tables have been turned…

  • short circut


  • Anon

    You’re a certified weirdo and I love it!!!

  • DoubbleR

    So…you’re just assuming wrongdoing on someone’s part without proof? And you don’t even know who?

  • S

    I think this is a perfect example of how you think you know something but you really have no idea (like what people are or are not capable of). I don’t think I’ve ever been cheated on before either, but that doesn’t mean it has never happened. But of course, if she did cheat on you – whoever she is, shame on her Jozen. Shame on her. 🙂

  • b.collins

    i believe it is absolutely possible to be in a faithful relationship. I was in one with someone whom to this day, I’d be shocked if I found out their was any cheating. I believe in trust, but not naive trust. I believe in someone working their ass off to attain my trust and you don’t get it 100% for quite some time (even if you think you have it). It takes time to really know someone well enough and to trust someone enough-in a way that you feel in your gut without any sort doubt. I’ve only felt it once, so it isn’t something easily found. Furthermore, I think people cheat when people aren’t happy-whether it be conscious or unconscious-there’s something wrong, a doubt somewhere, something missing somewhere on someone’s part. People in happy relationships don’t cheat. They just don’t. So, Jozen, I hope you’re happy wherever you are, so you don’t leave a trail of cheating or cheated on ex-girlfriends on your wake.

  • Lilie

    hm… i dont really know what to say in this case. obviously, cheating is not cool when you’re in a relationship with someone. That being said, she could have been more communicative with you about her feelings like if she was feeling distant from you or whatever else it might have been to compel her to cheat.. if you have, and I’m sure you have (lol)… why did you cheat when you did?

  • Joey

    You know what, as a woman, if feel you. I’ve heard before that a woman cheating on a man, is more devistating to him, than when a man cheats on a woman. Now, You’ve proven my point. You have no proof, only suspicion, and you’re already shutting women down – in the future no less. Lovely. Good luck with that brother. Some advice: don’t hang on to anger that hasn’t even happened yet. It shortens your life.

  • Teach It

    So, you don’t know who cheated on you or even if there was any cheating? But you dedicate an entire post to this riduculous rant based on something that may not have happened? Long, quiet weekend, Jozen?

  • Teach It

    That should be “ridiculous”.

  • Daf

    let me just say I LOVE your writing and I love the message. It makes you think , and rethink your actions.Whatever the scenario , what ever the reason…cheating is WRONG !! And you said it very beautifully.

  • Dera

    Ah, are you going to follow your own advice. Don’t cheat.

  • D’Lishis

    I wholeheartely agree with b.collins

  • LuvRain

    This is hilarious because I am the girl who has never been CAUGHT cheating but has more than once, who the exes think isn’t the type of girl that cheats and who that one particular ex thinks he did all the dirt and walked away from completeely unscathed, poor girl. Yeah, I liked this. And I’m sorry. I know I was foul as hell.

  • Tervin

    yah cheating is foul