Comments on: The Romantic vs. The Player: On First Date Sex

By: Coretta

Coretta — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 12:30:27 +0000

This is actually a bit frightening and I’m not sure if I want to read any more.

By: Sami

Sami — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 05:33:59 +0000

Very well done.
As a woman, of course I side with the romantic, but a little bit of me tends to wonder who the real player is…? Both are trying to win a prize, only the player just wants the roses that fade and have to be replaced while the romantic wants the solid gold trophy.

By: rita

rita — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 02:46:01 +0000

I feel bad for the player side because he really thinks he has accomplished something, at least the romantic is well aware that we decide if we are gonna have sex with you or not, now or later. The true power is in the PU we hold the key.
And you never know maybe we played the player and got the free meal and the sex! Touche` pussycat.

By: nicolaspeaks

nicolaspeaks — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 23:31:03 +0000

Excellent product placement… placing the “Romantic” last; leaves a pleasant after-thought in the minds of women who may have gotten a kink in their neck from reading the “Player” segment.

Well done.

By: K.Ova

K.Ova — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 19:27:55 +0000

Good questions, Dililah. Truth be told – I could live off Costco samples for a day.
Anyway,a lot of women say that if a lady wants a guy for long-term bf material, then she’ll def hold on to that goodgood until the 4th or 5th date. That’s what I’ve HEARD. But, seriously, whether you’re the player or the romantic – when she comes along – it’ll be no contest, despite first date sex. Even a player knows when THAT lady comes along. Whether he turns into a romantic in time to keep her…

By: Jimmy

Jimmy — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 18:40:34 +0000

Nice post. As a guy, I don’t like first-date sex. Don’t like them to see my small nipples this early in the relationship.
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By: Monay

Monay — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 18:15:48 +0000

I liked how you were able to describe both sides of the fence perfectly. Now I know I will pay extra attention to the guy I’m with on the first date to see which category he falls under!

By: Lilie

Lilie — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 17:08:40 +0000

I love your romantic side here. There’s never anything wrong with a little roleplay when in a relationship I’m anxious to read more.

By: Val

Val — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 16:49:34 +0000

Glad there are still some romantics out there!

By: Dililah

Dililah — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 15:35:11 +0000

First and foremost, I love your writing style.

I have a couple of questions if you don’t mind.

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THE PLAYER

“Never has a woman who has had sex with me on the first date been judged for doing so.”

Does the Romantic side of you feel the same?
If a woman decides to engage in first date sex, which side of you is she more likely to be subjected to at the next meet-up/date? Player, Romantic, or both?

Once the needs of the “Player” are met, do you find it difficult for the romantic side of you to come out?