Happy New Day
It’s happening right now.
Somewhere, some girl who has been dealing with me and all my crazy ways is making a resolution to leave me behind in the ’09. She is erasing my phone number out of her Contacts, probably blocking me on Gchat, and maybe, just maybe, De-friending me on Facebook and un-following me on Twitter.
She has vowed to herself and maybe one or two of her friends that she will not pick up the phone when I call, will not pick up the phone to call me when she feels like having sex, when it comes to guys, she’s all Jay-Z with it – on to the next one.
And none of this bothers me, the whole getting rid of me thing is something I can get behind because we all do it, every year. I’m just wondering why we wait until January 1 to start.
This year especially, 2009, most of the people I talk to are salivating for a new year, a fresh start, and I completely understand.
I want a new year too, a new opportunity to make new mistakes with new people. I want to make some new money to get rid of old debts and maybe, just maybe live a new life in an old place (that means I want to live in D.C.). I want new girls, new lovers, new fighters, all new everything.
After all, isn’t that what we all want? We want every year to be better than it was the year before. We wanted it in ’09, we wanted it in ’08, we wanted it in ’07. New years always make us want to leave behind old problems and exchange them for new ones, but I wish people would stop forcing it.
True change takes time and if anyone wanted to change their lives around, they should have been on that in October or August or May. We’re days away from a new year and a new decade, and as someone who came of age in the aughts, I feel the pressure of 2010 because in 10 years, I could be writing a blog entitled Until I Get Re-Married. Then again, I could still be writing this blog, living the same title. Who knows?
The pressure of a new decade only comes along every ten years, and the pressure of a new year only comes along every 365 days, but the pressure of a new day comes along every 24 hours and every morning I wake up, it is right there staring me right in the eyes and asking, What are you going to do today?
Well last week, a girl I dated recently for a couple of months decided December 24 was a fitting day to tell me she never wants to talk to me again, or she doesn’t want to talk to me for a very long time. And I don’t bring this up to brag or to boast or to seek pity. I bring this up because it illustrates the point I am trying to make.
We don’t have to wait for new years to change our life around, we could do it right now.
Happy New Day to everyone.