Comments on: When Tears Hurt

By: Bam

Bam — Sun, 07 Feb 2010 16:11:37 +0000

Excellent point.

By: Missy

Missy — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 06:02:39 +0000

Just wanted to note that not all women find it easy to cry either. I know I don’t. Over the years I learn to internalize a lot of feelings and I’m just learning how to cry again and allow myself to grieve.

By: Paige

Paige — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 03:00:02 +0000

It still startles me to see a man cry, but it never makes him less of a man in my eyes. Just a man who needs to be held.

By: Alisha

Alisha — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 19:39:03 +0000

Tears are so necessary. I saw my Daddy cry for the first time at my uncle’s funeral. It was a life-changing moment for me. Even though I knew he wasn’t a machine, I knew at that moment that he could FEEL. My prayers are still with you and your friend’s family.

By: virtue5

virtue5 — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 16:59:47 +0000

LIKE SUPERWOMAN SAID CRY IT OUT. IT’S A PART OF THE HEALING PROCESS.

By: Ondrea

Ondrea — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 14:48:59 +0000

I have a friend who recently said to me, “If I were a weak man, I would have cried”. I couldn’t understand how he associatied crying with weakness/lack of strength. I agree with you Jozen, you are not a machine you are human and humans cry. God gave tears to both men and women for a reason.

By: superwoman

superwoman — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 10:17:00 +0000

my heartfelt condolences. do cry it out, holding it in only makes it hurt more.

By: samara

samara — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 02:37:34 +0000

My heart goes out to you Jozen.

By: booboonotthefool

booboonotthefool — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 01:24:43 +0000

Let me start by saying I’m so sorry for your loss! Death is never easy, and it’s a even bigger cross to bear when it comes suddenly. We are never quite ready for it. I pray that you, your friends, and your families find peace and come to terms with this loss.

You speak the strength and the vulnerability of men all at once…

I agree with you, the tears that don’t fall hurt so much more than the ones that do. Don’t hold back.

By: udee

udee — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 22:40:11 +0000

Once upon a time, I dated a guy who claimed he never cried. He saw crying as a sign of weakness and unnecessary fragility; essentially, strong people do not cry. His heritage bespoke of one where men are taught never to cry from childhood.

I appreciate your words, Jozen – your honesty is touching and your writing inspiring. Strength will find you, even when your body resists and your heart cannot hold you up. Right then. That is where strength finds you.