Five Other Ways To Tell I Really Like Her
Remember the movie, The Brothers? I recall there being some pearl of wisdom being disseminated in the film about how if a man gives a woman the last piece of food on his plate, he loves her or he wants to hit that. I can’t remember which, but I do remember watching it and thinking “That is some bullshit.”
All men and women analyze the beginning stages of a relationship with one another. We pick apart the little things they do or say so we can try and get a sense of how they really feel about us. But the old last-piece-of-food-on-the-plate is one of those tired tropes women are still relying on to this day. The most it means when I give a woman the last piece of food on my plate is I’m not hungry anymore. Nothing more, nothing less.
Thank God for me and my idiosyncratic mind. Allow me to break down the five ways a woman would be able to tell I really like her. All five may not apply to all men, but I’m pretty sure they might agree with one or two.
I SAY HER NAME AND EVERYONE KNOWS WHO I’M TALKING ABOUT
If I’m on the phone with my woman while I’m around some company (friends, family, or both) someone is going to ask me who I’m talking to. Pay attention to the way I answer.
If I say, “I’m talking to my girl,” I’m sure such a answer would warm a woman’s heart, but such an answer is classic double-speak. To the woman on the phone it sounds like I’m claiming her, but to the person I’m answering, it’s the exact same answer I gave when I was talking to the last girl who called. They’re just smart enough to not ask which one. But if I’m specific with my reply, if I answer with her name, the woman on the phone can rest assured we are on a different level. I really like her and everyone else knows exactly who “her” is.
I CLEANED BEHIND THE TOILET
I’m generally a clean person. But I will admit, I don’t get to scrubbing the tiles in my bathroom every week. Like most men, the standard of cleanliness I try to maintain at my apartment is something I like to call, “Neat enough to beat it up.” Every man keeps his apartment at least that clean, because such a standard doesn’t require too much effort. Just keep the clothes off the bed, the kitchen sink empty. It’s all for vanity’s sake. But if I really, really like a woman, she can check behind my toilet and it looks as clean as a showroom floor.
MY FACEBOOK PROFILE PIC IS A PICTURE OF ME AND HER TOGETHER
Women love to act like a man who claims his woman in his Facebook Relationship Status is really doing something.
No he isn’t.
The last woman I was really serious about, wasn’t on Facebook at the time we were dating, so changing my status to “In A Relationship” really didn’t say much. I still could have lied to any woman who wanted to message me on the side. What ultimately proved how serious I was about my relationship (if one believes we can gauge such things through social networking) was when I put a picture of me and her together in my Profile. As one of my boys commented on the photo the day after I put the picture up, “He’s officially turned in his membership card.”
I PAY FOR A MOVIE SHE WANTS TO SEE
I have a friend who went to go see, “It’s Complicated”. Most people are familiar with this film starring Meryl Streep and Alec Baldwin. What most people don’t know is it’s directed by Nancy Meyers the undisputed queen of chick-flicks. So when my boy told me he went to her latest film, I was stunned. This was the same guy who wanted to see “Sherlock Holmes” because in the previews, Sherlock “Looks like he’s getting it on with mad chicks.” That’s what he said. So when he saw my face of shock after he told me about “It’s Complicated, he quickly cleared the air. “Oh, I made her pay for it,” he said. “I told her I’m not paying to go see that movie.”
This was one of the most brilliant methods I ever heard on how to gauge how we feel about a woman we’re dating.. If I’m still concerning myself with who pays for what, and she’s still keeping a mental note of things she’s paid for, then clearly our relationship hasn’t developed past the formalities of a first date. If I really liked her, I’d be down to see whatever movie she wanted to see and happily pay, and every once in a while, if she really liked me, she’d pay for a movie I want to see. Two tickets to a movie in New York City, $24.00. Two tickets to a movie only one person wants to see: Priceless!
I WILL WILLINGLY HELP HER BREAK HER BAD HABITS
The true measure of how I feel about a woman can be taken by the interest I show in her journey to becoming a better version of her. A vested interest in a partner’s maturation is the greatest sign I care. So if I date a woman who has a snoring problem, and while she is sleeping, I gently place a Breathe Right strip over her nose, I’m not only doing it because I’m trying to sleep, I’m doing it because I care to see her do better. Hopefully she realizes this when she looks at herself in the bathroom mirror in the morning.
LOL!!! Love it! Thank you for this post…. I forwarded this to the guy I am dating and he called me agreeing with @ least 3 0f 5!! great post.
Another great post man & also informative…when I start dating again, I will have to remember to look for these signs.
Nice post. But how dare you give up some of our secrets so easily! Points 1,2 and 4 are on the money.
Nice but honestly, most men would help themselves more if they cleaned their bathrooms at an earlier stage. There is a reason why we ask to use your facilities as soon as we walk into your place for the first time. Seriously, don’t wait until you really, really like her.
I hate when I hear men talk refer to their gf as “my girl/wife” when i know who their girl is…Just say her name…geez. If they are significant to yoiu then say their name and not their title. If who ur talking to doesnt know who ur talking about then maybe they arent significant at all.
You better hope no future girlfriend of yours is reading this cause you know she’s going to want to hear you say her name every time you’re on the phone lol..great post as usual.
Besides #1 and #5, these seem pretty weak as an indication of liking a girl. I mean if you can put her and you together as your facebook profile then where is
–> “we go to church together” “we’re together or speak everyday” “she meets family and friends,” “we spend the holidays together” “we buy gifts for each other”???
Great post. Love the way your merging more storytelling into your “5 Things…” posts. Love it!
This is the most Sweet Valley High thing that was ever forwarded to me in an G-Chat. All these things sound great for a 16 year old, they really do. But in all sincerity–there are for argumentatively more serious things a man can demonstrate they like a girl. I respect these might be you’re ways…but you’re going to have some girl think that sharing your french fries with them is you giving them the sun, moon and stars.
Very informative man, keep up the good work. When I start dating again, I will keep these in mind.
sweet
Lisa, why’d you stop dating? just curious and/or nosey
nice post, but dang $24 for two movie tickets?! NY is doing too much lol.
Oh wow. This was a good post but um… I am a bit confused. Because if ANY of this is true, someone I thought was just interested in me casually might be a bit more interested that I thought.
Shit. lol
sounds (reads) like a conspiracy to me to lower women’s dating expectations.
caution my sister!! no two men are alike…
i know a man that will introduce any woman to his family, even his grandma. he doesn’t care about his family that much to care if they like her or not, but he does it to ensure he can get the “draws” .. and often. for some reason, many women get hot and bothered over the fact that they met a man’s family…that’s solid sex for atleast the next 6-9 months.
then there are those that will make you walk on hot coals before they tell you their middle name. it’s a grab bag. lol
Pay for a movie?- hell has frozen over *snickering*… anyway, this is cute tho I wouldn’t consider putting a nasal strip on someone’s nose helping them improve as much as helping you get some zzzz- bachelors smh.
*sidenote* I do appreciate the new format… you know, instead of posting the entire story on the mainpage we can “continue reading” if we choose… very good look *wink*
“MY FACEBOOK PROFILE PIC IS A PICTURE OF ME AND HER TOGETHER”
I can’t get with this one. It really has nothing to do with her. I’m just a private person and I don’t want EVERYONE in our business. The people that need to know that we are together will know. So what happens when you break up? Do you also change your relationship status from “In A Relationship” to “It’s Complicated” to “Single”…Everyone doesn’t need to know all that. Smh
The fact that you named yourself Dirk Diggler is fuking COMEDY!
I hate to see how he treats the chicks he doesn’t really like that much. I am a grown ass man…I treat you special because you are special.
You’re name is “boomshots”… *serious side eye*
Hmmm… This could have easily been titled ‘Stay faaaaaaar away from me–unless you don’t want much’.
Love this!
Lovin’ the Breathe Right strips…LOL!
Hilarious!! Especially the part about the breathe right strip!
I got a good laugh from this one. Responses seem to be a bit critical today. Reading this makes me think about the things I do when I really like someone. Keep it up Jozen. I’m a fan.
I know everyone’s entitled to their own opinion, but I think some people miss the point of your “list” posts…you pick the quirkiest, most random things..which I LOVE
Anyone could make a list of 1) “we talk on the phone every night” 2) I give her flowers blah blah blah, yada yada yada, bullshit bullshit! Lol…those things are SO cliche….it’s so refreshing to see that there are men that recognize and appreaciate the little nuances of women and relatonships. *slow clap*
I agree, this is my soup only on the first date friend! The title of the post is Five Other Ways to Tell If I REALLY LIKE HER (emphasis mine), NOT …If I Want to Wife Her, or …If I’m Ready for Her to Move In!! lol, baby steps people! Thanks Jozen : D
“So what happens when you break up? Do you also change your relationship status from “In A Relationship” to “It’s Complicated” to “Single” ”
According to Facebootk-iquette, that’s actually exactly what you do! lol. Some women look for overt actions (like setting a picture of the two of you together) as confirmation that you’re for real. Just let her know what the deal is from jump so she knows where you’re coming from with the whole being private thing!
Yeah, he picked up on those reallll nicely!
LOL…clap clap bravo.
LOL at the last one!
Totally agree! When you get past the initial “getting to know while trying to impress you” stage and get really comfortable with a person you’re bound to do certain small things that speak volumes. And that’s exactly what this list is. All of the small things on this list means he cares enough to consider you. That’s kind of a big deal…. Any guy can do the generic call, text, or flowers routine with an ulterior motive. But if you can say my name and the people around you know who you’re talking about, you’ve been talking about me. (and not using one of those generic nicknames i.e. starbucks girl, stripper girl, spelman girl) If he’s posting a pic of us together on FB then he’s obviously wanting to be open about our relationship because the comments will follow (and some of the groupies will get pissed off) Get it?
Loving this post
Nice post. Keep up the good writing.
I thought this was cute. I think, of course there are larger things that a man does to show he actually cares, but women do tend to pick apart little things like the last bite of food thing and the coupled picture on FB. Not that these are necessarily HUGE moves, but they are small, not necessarily required changes that can give an insecure in her spot woman a jolt of confidence, and a secure in her spot woman something to say, “awwww” at.
BTW, I do not check behind men’s toilets. Ain’t worth the risk. lol
THIS WAS SO CUTE!!!! I’m telling all of my girls to read it!
What most people don’t know is it’s directed by Nancy Meyers the undisputed queen of chick-flicks.
Was the funniest shit ever. Only men know that type of info!