Some good news to share today.
My sister called to tell me she’s going to have a baby, and not exactly in those words. What she actually said was, “You’re going to be an uncle.”
For 28 years, I have lived my life being one of the three things: Older brother, son, grandson. I have embraced all of them and wear them proudly, but I would be lying if I said I was ready to be an uncle.
Uncle Jozen sounds so grown to me, more grown than I care to admit. Even though my sister is three years my junior, she along with her boyfriend are more ready than I am to bring a child in the world. Honestly, my idea of helping out with babysitting duties is making phone calls to try and find a babysitter.
But ready or not, this child is coming, and I am going to be its uncle. A few people say to me, “Jozen, you will make a great uncle” but I honestly don’t even know what that means.
When I was growing up, my uncles were grown ass men. They had children of their own. They were married. They had houses. They were, much like my mom was, responsible adults who I could safely look up to. Sure they were imperfect in many ways, and sure I watched them go through their own trials and tribulations, but all the while, they were men, not by age but by acts.
When I think about being an uncle to this child, of course I want to be the coolest uncle in the world. But I also want to be a man he can look up to, and not because I graduated from college or I moved away from home and made my own way in this world. My uncles didn’t go to college, and with the exception of one who enlisted in the navy, they all kind of stayed close to the nest. And I still looked up to every one of them.
So, I turn this over to you my readers. What makes a great uncle? I’m already cool, so being a cool uncle is going to be easy. What I want to do is be a great, uncle. How do I do that? For the men who are uncles themselves, teach me how to fish. For the women or the men who are not uncles, please share whatever you remember about why your uncles are so great. I know this isn’t like being a parent, but until I have a kid of my own, my sister’s baby is it, so what do I need to know? All advice will be read and appreciated.
Thanks in advance,