Just So We’re Clear, She Doesn’t Want A Relationship Either
In the two years I have been single, I have learned a lot about the opposite sex. Dare I say, I have probably learned more about women being single than being in a relationship.
Before this extended time of single living, I don’t think I was as privy to some of the things about women I see now, largely because I was focused on finding one particular girl who I can call my girlfriend. When you’re on that journey, it’s all about learning about the woman, not the women. But now, two years into this journey, something about women is starting to become very clear to me and it is this:
Women don’t want a relationship any more than men do.
It’s not like I have been sitting on this vat of knowledge for years. Honestly, it’s not something I discovered until 2010, so to anyone who wants to say, “Duh,” send me an address so I can mail you a cookie. This thesis of mine is simply based on observation, taken from a deep study of my empty ass bed and months of unhonored plus-ones.
I have told people if I had to give 2010 a name or a title of some sorts, I would call it The Humbling.
That’s right, 2010 is the year of The Humbling because that is what most of the women who are drifting around my atmosphere are doing these days. They’re humbling me in all sorts of ways. Here are just a few:
- They don’t call me back
- They don’t want date number 2, even though date number 1 was off the hook.
- If they do want date number 2, they’re not tripping about when that happens. As a matter of fact, we may make plans for date number 2 and they may cancel.
- I don’t call them, they’re not mad.
- They don’t hear from me for a few days, they don’t seem to care.
- I want them, but they don’t want me.
These things are not necessarily earth-shattering surprises, more like refreshing revelations
Women in 2010 are definitely not giving a damn and playing by their own rules, don’t let anyone tell you different. That much is clear to me. Clear like the time I made some cookies for Santa, and my parents left them uneaten so I would stop believing he was real. Except, I’m the plate of cookies and the women are like my parents, they’re not eating them, and in the process, giving me a heavy handed dose of reality.
But let this post not be confused for a complaint. No, see, complaining would lead one to believe there is an actual problem. This is not a problem. All I am doing here is clarifying.
I want to clarify, that women are not only perfectly okay with their single status, they’re relishing in it like hot dogs that come with relish.
A lot of women are doing this and I know this because a lot of women I like, are choosing other options over liking me back. And I suppose I could assume it’s me that has the problem, but it’s so much bigger than me. I may have my flaws, but none of them make me completely undesirable. Tis a real man who can admit they have hit a wall with women, but tis a smart one who sees women have hit a wall too.
So maybe instead of just pointing the finger at myself, I can point the finger back at the women and say, Look, women have other guys they’re interested in or maybe they’re only interested in themselves. I don’t know what the reason is, all I know is the phrases “no” and “I don’t care” are ones I have been hearing a lot lately.
This holds true even for the women who have liked me, but I don’t reciprocate. They’re not any better than the ones who don’t like me back. For whatever energy they’re putting towards making something happen with me, they’re probably turning down a dude who wants what I don’t. He wants her, but she either doesn’t see him or she does and she’s not interested.
Men have been enjoying the single game for years and now because they see how much fun we’re having, women are enjoying it too. As a result, all of us are acting like a bunch of dollar bills being thrown in the air.
Like me for instance: Right now, I am a man wanted by some, but not by any who want me back. I am also a man wanted by others, but I don’t want any of them. So all parties involved keep on missing each other, and if I can be honest here, it’s taken me some getting used to.
I’m not saying I used to be God’s gift. I’m just saying I used to have a gift from God to be able to pinpoint exactly the type of woman who wanted me as much as I wanted her. Not every woman wanted me, but every woman I wanted, I got, up until, well, recently. These days, some women I want are doing their own thing.
These days, women aren’t trying to get wifed. They just want to hang and men should start paying attention to that instead of over-thinking themselves into a stupor.
So for now, ladies, the complaint box for women is officially closed.
The whole woe-is-I-where-is-my-man-why-won’t-someone-love-me book is finished. It’s not that I think it’s an old story I’ve heard a million times (even though it is), it’s just that I don’t believe it anymore. You all don’t want relationships. You all don’t want to find the loves of your life. You all just want to mack and hang, mack and hang, which is cool because, you know, I want to do that too. Maybe we can do it together.