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If You’re Going To Do The Movie Date, Five Things To Remember

I truly despise going to a movie on a first date because as far as first dates go, the movies demonstrate as much originality as a white wall. There’s no thought process beyond scheduling a time to go and what movie to see, and for about two hours, you and the date are doing pretty much the same thing you two could be doing by yourselves.

But, then again, anyone in a relationship knows good and well the joys of going to see a movie together. Want to get out of the house even though it’s raining outside? Go to the movies. Not ready to go home after a long day of running errands? Go to the movies? You and your partner find yourself in a sleepy town where there is not much to do? Go to the movies.

Yes, like it or not, the movies, are a cure-all for those of us who want to do something with someone but don’t know what to do. Even I, the man who just said he despises first date movie dates have gone on my fair share of them. As unoriginal as they may be, there are ways to make a movie date, a great date. Here are five of them.

GO SEE A GOOD ONE

Sounds so easy, and almost impossible to gauge. The goal of any journey to the movies is to see our next favorite film, but so rarely does this happen. Before buying a ticket, scan some reviews. I usually stick to one simple rule to determine this: If Roger Ebert says it’s good, I should probably check it out. Also,  if it’s a choice between a movie you want to see and the movie everyone else is saying you should see, choose the latter, if only because we know eventually we’re going to see the movie we want to see, so what’s the rush? Trust me, very, very good things come to those who choose a good movie, and when I say very good things, I absolutely mean sex.

SNACKS ARE KEY

Personally, I prefer to hit up a drug store for more snack food options and I implore every man to insist on this. Make sure to get a shareable item, don’t be the jerk who knows she hates Juniors Mints and buys Junior Mints anyway. Adapt. If movie popcorn is preferred, go with a small to split. Anything bigger and watch a knot form in the stomach by the film’s closing credits. Try to save room for a bite to eat afterward, which brings me to my next rule…

MOVIE BEFORE MEAL, NEVER THE OTHER WAY AROUND

Always, always, always insist on going to a movie before getting the bite to eat. Doing it the other way around is a quick ticket to being the guy who fell asleep at the movie, a man I have been plenty of times.

LET HER PICK THE SEAT

Maybe it’s just me, but I always seem to date the kind of woman who is a seat diva. You know the seat divas, the type of woman who just can’t sit anywhere, talking about, “We’re too close” or “We’re too far.” She is also the type of woman who won’t hesitate to yell over six people to ask, “Is someone sitting there?” and then proceed to ask an entire row of people to move one chair over to “make room.” If a man did any of these things, another man in the row is probably going to say something not nice back to him (I know I would). A woman on the other hand can get away with this, hence why whenever I walk into a movie theater, I always just look at my date like I’m lost.

MATINEES ARE THE BEST

Christopher Walken once said the morning time is the best time to watch a movie, and I couldn’t agree more, especially in movie theaters. Not only are matinees cheaper, they’re also usually less crowded, and schedule friendly. If I like the girl I took with me to the matinee, maybe we can get brunch afterward. If I don’t like her after the matinee, guess what? We can part ways with enough time for me to call up another girl, and ask her if she wants to go to the movies with me that night. A perfect plan if I do say so myself.

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  • Erica

    Cute post 😉

  • Top5WitnessProtection

    In new york do they still have matinées?
    The move use to be a nice cheap date… Not any more… Dropped 60 dollars on a 2 movie tickets, pop corn, 2 sodas, candy and something else…

    but I enjoyed Kick Ass and we had a good time.

  • Sunkissed404

    Yea.. I have to admit. Movies are a “crutch” for people who don’t know what to do…or where to go. I have been single and dating for so long that I am now out of options of where to go for a first date.

    Museum: Been there, done that…It was cute, but dude kept tryna feel up on me, while acting extra interested in the “artwork”..

    Poetry Cafes: I used to think they were a plus, but…all the good ones here are onSunday night, and I have to be to work at 8:30-FAIL

    Restaurants: Okay, if they’re nice and classy. Enjoyed going to Maggiano’s for a first date…But, I don’t always feel like eating. – B-

    Movies: Only funny when I know the person I’m going with. I like to look at the person I’m talking to cuz…ya know. Don’t wanna waste time:) – C+

    Out of ideas…

  • http://www.metanotherfrog.com/blog Skye Blue

    Good post.

    I especially liked the matinee idea and having the chance to ask someone else out for an evening movie if the first date doesn’t work out.

  • Violet

    My mom is a seat diva! LOL!

  • **inquiring mind**

    A little off topic, but for those of you who have never been to the movies alone I THOROUGHLY suggest it… best time I ever had at the movies honest. It’ll completely change your mindset about going to the movies on dates- like fo’ real- aside from the fact that you(women of course) don’t have to pay on a date, you can’t beat the “movie watching” experience… I just went for the first time a couple of weeks ago and I’m smitten- seriously try it!

  • **inquiring mind**

    @**inquiring mind**
    oh yeah… cute post Jozen

  • http://alana-supperclub.blogspot.com Alana

    I’m a seat diva wow,did’nt know there was a name for ladies like me!I also like to get snacks first, I looove to go to Garrets popcorn first get my popcorn maybe a drink then head to the show!

  • http://facebook.com/yesip621 Yesi Jukebox

    I’m a seat diva but if I really like the guy I’ll be flexible..and I love matinees that’s definitely a good idea.

  • http://koolaidontherocks.wordpress.com RtG

    lol @ seat diva. I’m one. Totally. I like to be dead center.

  • http://facebook.com/yesip621 Yesi Jukebox

    @**inquiring mind** A lot of people have thought me crazy for going to the movies alone but I love it too. Every movie i’ve seen alone i’ve liked, and sometimes it’s annoying to wait around for someone just to go see a movie so I second that thought.

  • http://sleep-is-the-cousin-of-death.blogspot.com/ MadScientist7

    cool post. i agree on most of these points except letting her pick the seats. i don’t care what row we sit in but I HAVE to have the end set in the aisle. i’m pretty tall so my legs are long and they cramp up easily and become uncomfortable really quickly. so unless you want to feel me shifting around a million times let me sit at the end where i can stretch my legs out into the aisle.

  • http://sleep-is-the-cousin-of-death.blogspot.com/ MadScientist7

    i agree as well. matinées are the truth.

  • http://www.imperfectenjoyment.com/blog Dewan W. Gibson

    A first date to the movies tells me a lot about a woman. If she’s down to put my Skittles and a bottle of Pepsi in her purse, there’s long-term potential. If she’s uptight about sneaking a few snacks in…hell naw. I don’t think that’s asking too much considering I’ll still buy her popcorn and nachos.

  • udee

    Guilty of being a seat diva. I don’t get women who aren’t!

  • Netreia

    I feeling this one, very real. Glad some1 thought out this whole process. I will be to sure to forward this to some potentials.
    I’m a great date, I always bring on my snacks and matinées are the best (then you can have another rendezvous later :-))

  • http://rashadiscrazy.blogspot.com rashad

    as an addendum to that movie before meal point..movie before glasses of red wine too…

  • The Smartest Leo

    i wish you would have included what you’d suggest INSTEAD of a the movie but good post

  • *it’s ME*

    Hahahah @ seat diva… I’m not one of them. I like to sit in the center, but I try to get there early, so I have my pick and I DON’T have to be a seat diva…or end up sitting in the front. If we have to sit in the front, better believe I’m not staying… That’s just out of the question. LOL

  • http://www.nicolen275.blogspot.com Nicole

    I don’t do movies for a first date. I’d rather do something that will help me know if I want to sit that close to that person for about 2 hours.

    I enjoyed the post. LOL @ the Seat Diva title. I love it!

  • http://pastthevelvetrope.wordpress.com mimi

    A part of me feels like you’re cheap Jozen. LOL! The reference to going to the store before— really on a date. And then choosing a small popcorn. **crickets** See when you’re in a relationship, that doesn’t count (going to the store)… but DATING. If my DATE ever said go to the store before, I’d suddenly become illand have to 86 his ass.

    Moving on… good point about movie after dinner.

    Lastly, I’m a seat diva! lmao0o0 well I used to be. But I live in Boston and I only sit in the Lux Lounge now. So reserved seating alleviates all of that foolery. 🙂

  • http://pastthevelvetrope.wordpress.com mimi

    Oh yes and I’d never want to go to the movies on the first date. I hate to be touched. If I’m touching you… I’m liking you. But men use the movies to sit close– and I live in Boston. Land of the couch seats in the movies. Oh hell no, scoot your rookie ass over I don’t even like you yet. LOL… So yeah, no movies until he moves up on the totem pole. If not for my listed reason, for the fact that you learn absolutely nothing about the person and waste 2 hrs. Very impersonal.

  • Honee Babe

    If I don’t like her after the matinee, guess what? We can part ways with enough time for me to call up another girl, and ask her if she wants to go to the movies with me that night. A perfect plan if I do say so myself…..

    LMAO…. This has got to be classic…. but seriously I would never go to the movie as a first date…

  • Geneva Girl

    Do NOT go to a movie on a first date!!!! You should be getting to know each other not sitting silently at a movie. I once sat in front of a couple who were on a first date. The character in the movie had a brother so the girl asked the boy, “Do you have a brother?” “No, a sister. What about you?” They kept up the getting-to-know-you questions until I turned around and told them to shut up and go to a restaurant if they were going to talk through the whole movie.

    Movies are for couple who know each other and don’t need to chit chat endlessly. And, if your date is the talk-through the movie type either dump him or her. Or, keep them at home to watch the DVD.

  • http://www.smellsite.com/ Dave

    Oh yes and I’d never want to go to the movies on the first date. I hate to be touched. If I’m touching you… I’m liking you. But men use the movies to sit close– and I live in Boston. Land of the couch seats in the movies. Oh hell no, scoot your rookie ass over I don’t even like you yet. LOL… So yeah, no movies until he moves up on the totem pole. If not for my listed reason, for the fact that you learn absolutely nothing about the person and waste 2 hrs. Very impersonal.

  • http://www.superdiagnostic.com/ Nick

    as an addendum to that movie before meal point..movie before glasses of red wine too…

  • http://www.weirdeurope.com/ Joseph

    I don’t do movies for a first date. I’d rather do something that will help me know if I want to sit that close to that person for about 2 hours.

    I enjoyed the post. LOL @ the Seat Diva title. I love it!

  • http://www.oxygenrush.com/ Ian

    A part of me feels like you’re cheap Jozen. LOL! The reference to going to the store before— really on a date. And then choosing a small popcorn. **crickets** See when you’re in a relationship, that doesn’t count (going to the store)… but DATING. If my DATE ever said go to the store before, I’d suddenly become illand have to 86 his ass.

    Moving on… good point about movie after dinner.

    Lastly, I’m a seat diva! lmao0o0 well I used to be. But I live in Boston and I only sit in the Lux Lounge now. So reserved seating alleviates all of that foolery. 🙂

  • http://www.arisemichigan.com/ Dave

    A part of me feels like you’re cheap Jozen. LOL! The reference to going to the store before— really on a date. And then choosing a small popcorn. **crickets** See when you’re in a relationship, that doesn’t count (going to the store)… but DATING. If my DATE ever said go to the store before, I’d suddenly become illand have to 86 his ass.

    Moving on… good point about movie after dinner.

    Lastly, I’m a seat diva! lmao0o0 well I used to be. But I live in Boston and I only sit in the Lux Lounge now. So reserved seating alleviates all of that foolery. 🙂

  • http://www.darkrash.com/ Joseph

    A part of me feels like you’re cheap Jozen. LOL! The reference to going to the store before— really on a date. And then choosing a small popcorn. **crickets** See when you’re in a relationship, that doesn’t count (going to the store)… but DATING. If my DATE ever said go to the store before, I’d suddenly become illand have to 86 his ass.

    Moving on… good point about movie after dinner.

    Lastly, I’m a seat diva! lmao0o0 well I used to be. But I live in Boston and I only sit in the Lux Lounge now. So reserved seating alleviates all of that foolery. 🙂

  • http://www.angelnina.com/ Joe

    Do NOT go to a movie on a first date!!!! You should be getting to know each other not sitting silently at a movie. I once sat in front of a couple who were on a first date. The character in the movie had a brother so the girl asked the boy, “Do you have a brother?” “No, a sister. What about you?” They kept up the getting-to-know-you questions until I turned around and told them to shut up and go to a restaurant if they were going to talk through the whole movie.

    Movies are for couple who know each other and don’t need to chit chat endlessly. And, if your date is the talk-through the movie type either dump him or her. Or, keep them at home to watch the DVD.

  • GINTRS

    Best first date ever.. Fuerza Bruta in Union Square. We got there two hours early, got discounted tickets and then went to grab a bite to eat to kill time before the show!

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