Until I Get Married ®

So as most people who read this site know, last night, I participated in the Modern Day Matchmaker Live event at Providence in New York City. My role was as one of six people sitting on a panel to have, what the event billed as, “Real talk about real relationships.” Overall, I’d say I enjoyed myself, and for the people who were in attendance, I hope they enjoyed it too.

At the end of the panel, all of us was asked to give our own advice on what people can do right now to increase their chances of meeting that special someone. When it was my time to talk, I gave the men one piece of advice, and the women another. Here they are, feel free to discuss in the comments, and maybe I will elaborate more next week.

P.S. Sorry for the light post today, I’m just mentally exhausted. Enjoy the weekend everyone!

P.S.S. I will be on the Oprah Radio Network tomorrow at 1 p.m. Sirius Channel 195, XM Channel 156. The show is The Derrick Ashong Experience. If you don’t have satellite radio, go to oprahradio.com, and I think you’ll be able to stream from there. Of course, we’ll be talking about Until I Get Married.

FOR THE MEN

Approach women you have no business approaching

This was a piece of advice given to me by a friend of mine, which was given to him by the father of a friend of his. Today, it’s a motto I live by because I feel if put into practice, a man can gain confidence from a failed attempt, and demonstrates confidence from a successful one. If I go up to a woman who is seemingly out of my league, and I strike out, I can always say at least I wasn’t afraid. Like a bad song, the word “No” gets easier to hear after repeat listens. If I find the girl saying yes, I know it’s probably because she recognized the confidence I had with each approaching step.

FOR THE WOMEN

Quit playing hard to get, start playing hard to keep.

Yesterday I tweeted the following sentences: “Girl, I’m not chasing you. I have asthma.” I don’t really have asthma (hopefully anyone who does isn’t offended), but what I was trying to say is I don’t have the time or the energy to chase after a girl and try to wear her down. Women who think playing hard to get will find themselves not gotten sooner than later.

Ladies, let a man have you, but do so on your own terms and watch how long he stays around. Now, he may bounce after the first sentence of back talk, but if he does, just let him go ladies. My point is, let a man work for the power he wants because honestly, it’s all we ever really want. Power.  It’s the difference between a woman who stays until a man has to tell her to go, and a woman who leaves on her own accord. The latter is getting called back before the former.