Poppin’ The Questions 7
I’m hungover today folks, and it’s days like this that I’m happy I started the “Poppin’ The Questions” series.
Just a reminder, these are all very real questions from real people who I don’t know. I hope you enjoy the answers as much as I enjoy receiving the questions. Oh, and just so you all know, anytime you want, you can ask me a question by going here.
Now, let’s get into it, shall we?
You voice is deep. Do you think a voice can turn someone on? Have you ever turned on a woman with your voice? You seem to know the right things to say, do you think you win with women partly b/c of your voice?
The weird thing about my voice is it doesn’t really have the same effect on people in person as it does on the phone. Case in point: One day I called up a very good friend of mine and she almost hung up on me because she wasn’t convinced it was me. But yeah, my voice is one of my more winning qualities. Every girl I date likes it, and it’s helped me get a little bit more out of women I have interviewed. Lauren London and Serena Williams were two very memorable phone interviews because they both complimented me on my voice. What’s weird is when people say they didn’t expect me to sound the way I did. Clearly, they thought my looks beget a high octave voice. Glad to prove them wrong.
When are you gonna include a button to notify us when someone leaves a comment? I enjoying reading the comments on your blog.
Hear that commenters? Props to you all for being my better half, bringing people back with your wit and originiality. I actually met Boomshots, a frequent commenter, at the Modern Day Matchmaker event, and I feel bad I didn’t buy him a drink. So if you’re reading this Boom, next one’s on me. Anyway, as for adding the comment notification feature, my business partner Jermaine and I will definitely look into this. Thanks for the suggestion.
Who is your favorite male lyricist in the game right now. Why?
People are going to burn me at the stake for saying this, but honestly, I am listening to a lot of Drake. One of the reasons is I just did a pretty big story on him (details to come), but the other reason is the dude just knows how to put words that rhyme to my situation.
To wit, here are a couple of lines from “You Know, You Know” a cut not on Thank Me Later, but available out there on the internet.
“I’m always left wishin’ I could’ve done it in person/my apologies to all of the ones I was hurtin’/I got new girls but none of their love is for certain/and call old girls but none of their numbers is workin'” See that? The way you might had to have lived in the ‘hood to relate to Jeezy, you had to have gone through some stuff with some girls to relate to Drake.
Zetas, AKAs, or Deltas?
For all my readers who aren’t up on the Divine Nine and the history of black fraternities and sororities, this question is the kind of question black people who went to college usually ask one another at parties just so they can make small talk. It is also a question that can get you hurt, depending on your answer, but since I’m not scared I’m going to answer truthfully.
I love them all, but most girls I have dated are AKAs. My most complicated relationships have been with Deltas. The nicest girls on the planet are Zetas. And I can’t forget about SGRho’s, but I don’t know enough about them to say anything about them. But don’t take my frequent dating of AKAs as some sort of a preference. It’s more of a coincidence. Since I’m not in a frat, I don’t have any allegiance to one sorority over the other, but I must say, I do love sorority girls.
As you are a lover of NYC, name me a interesting/cool place to hang/chill out. I am a Londoner about to spend my birthday out in the Big Apple.
This all depends on what you want to do. I’m an okay tour guide when it comes to the city, but I usually rely on my vast network of well-connected friends to steer me in a certain direction. Hopefully you have some people out here who know the lay of the land and can put you on, but if you don’t and you do need some help, leave me a message on Facebook and I’ll do what I can.
So I went through my boyfriend’s text messages. I know that’s a big NO-NO but he is very flirtatious in nature and has lots of friends that are girls and some of the messages are not kosher. Like how hot a girl looked last night and how he’s going through withdrawals from not seeing another girl. I know in my heart of hearts he’s not cheating, but should I approach him about this knowing he is big on privacy? How do I get him to stop being so suggestive to other girls?
First off, your heart of hearts doesn’t know anything about what he’s doing. This is a situation in which you need to use your head of heads. I’m sorry to come off so abrasive, but this kind of stuff blows me because I have experienced it. If you were looking for a reason to not trust your man, congratulations, you found it. Now the next step is tell him you did this. But know this, it could end badly, as in, it could just end. When a girl I was dating went through my email and found my emails I sent to another woman, she confronted me about it and I then left. Never came back. People like to think these things need to be discussed, and sometimes they do, but a lot of times, they don’t. Work with him if you want, but do so at your own risk.
So, I don’t plan on getting married anytime soon considering I’m only in my mid 20s, but I feel like every guy I date is freaked out/turned off at the fact that I’m not so experienced (almost at all). I just want a bit of action in my dating life…what do I do?
What do you do? You do it. Over and over again. Do it. Remember practice makes perfect.
Some people recommend going out and meeting new people to get over your ex. Some people recommend finding someone else of interest. What do you do to get over your ex?
The method I suggest to anyone trying to get over a break up is real simple. Wake up, go to bed, and repeat everyday. It’s really the only way. There is no substitute for time.
Have you ever been shy about asking someone you dated to be with you?
Absolutely not, but I have been shy about asking a girl out on a date, which surprises me every time it happens. I honestly don’t get why some women still have this affect on me, but they do. Just goes to show you, every man meets their match in the form of a woman.
How long do you date a person before you start expecting her to cook for you?
The first date would be nice. Don’t be holding off the culinary skills acting like you’re Paula Deen when you’re more like Paula Abdul. For me, it’s really a matter of if you like to cook. Much like sex, if you like to cook, you should be doing it right away. If you’re holding off, you’re only setting yourself for some expectations you may not be able to meet.
What do you think of the Lil Kim/Nicki Manaj beef?
Before I answer this question, let me just say how much I appreciate people taking me seriously as a person who writes about more than just relationships. I’m not an expert on hip-hop, just like I’m not an expert on relationships, but I write about both extensively, so it feels good to know some people recognize that. Now, onto the questions…
Lil Kim had absolutely no grounds for going after Nicki Minaj, and by doing so, she’s somewhat tarnished her legacy by acting like whiny old lady on the porch telling the kids to get off her lawn. Lil Kim is a freaking legend, and nothing Nicki has done can measure up to something like Hard Core. The Queen Bee should have just let Barbie fall and stand up on her own, instead, she’s only helped Nicki on her path towards stardom.
When I broke up with my ex, I saw him out with a girl who looked Just.Like. Me…Have you ever dated a girl who strongly resembled an ex?
I can’t say that I have, but my boys would beg to differ. For me, if I date someone who looks like an ex of mine, it’s like getting an upgrade on an old model. I’m kidding. Pay no attention to what your ex’s new girl looks like unless they’re ugly. Then, crack jokes. If they look like you, I hope they’re pretty.