On any given week, I am invited to two or three free social activities. Sometimes it’s a party, sometimes it’s a concert, sometimes it’s a listening session, and sometimes it’s a movie screening. For each of these things, I’m likely granted a plus-1 so I can take whoever I want (or whoever is free), and from there, the search for the perfect guest begins. But it goes far beyond whoever is free or whoever I like at the moment, and I definitely don’t try to use my access as a means to impress a girl. That’s how people get played.
For me, if I ask someone to join me for a specific show or event, it is because not only do I think they will have a good time with me, they’ll have a good time at wherever I’m taking them. This is strategic, but not as a means to get some tail.