Technically, A Man Doesn’t Need To Start A Blog To Get Women
Back in 2006, I got a job as the online editor for KING Magazine. For those who were born yesterday or in parts of the country where black men and their reading interests are given zero consideration, KING Magazine is basically the black male version of MAXIM in so many words. This absolutely means part of my job required me to look and interact with stunning women who were fine enough to literally be in a magazine.
Throughout my time at KING the number one question I was asked is whether or not my job helped me out with the ladies, as though my being closer to these “models” (some were legit, others weren’t in my opinion) beget more models. And I suppose at a very base level, to assume such a thing isn’t really foolish, but as my blog becomes more and more popular, I have begun to notice the same questions or assumptions being made.
Some say jokingly (though there’s a lot of truth in jest), Until I Get Married is some sort of rest haven for women. They see the comments by all the women or they hear women talk about the blog, and they automatically think it translates into panties on my laptop and that is just not true. If you want to know the real truth, here it is.
I’VE ALWAYS HAD PANTIES THROWN AT MY LAPTOP. Okay, let me calm down. Not always, but the idea that this blog helps me with women implies I needed help in the first place, and I don’t think I ever did.
As I make my way today down to ESSENCE FESTIVAL in New Orleans for the weekend, I am expecting to meet a few — maybe four or five — women readers, but I’m not expecting something to go down beyond a simple exchange of pleasantries. Or wait, let me stop lying. If I find them attractive, then I hope everything I would want to go down with any attractive woman I meet, actually goes down. And though we could say my blog helped me out in some way, maybe, I don’t believe it, not for a second.
The reason I know my blog isn’t what gets me women is because I know I’m the same man without the blog. On a technical level sure, because of this blog I definitely know more women then when I started it and more women know me, but for those numbers to actually add up in my bedroom entirely depends on who I am as a person. And who I am as a person has been the thing that always got me the women I wanted. The same goes for any man.
I have a friend who once worked in an ice cream shop that was popular with the ladies and it worked like a charm. When I was a waiter in college at Applebee’s, I always demanded groups of college-aged women be sat in my section. In high school, I served slices of pizza at an Italian restaurant where I collected more than a few numbers on the backs of receipts.
The reason I get girls is for the same reason my boy who worked at the ice cream shop got girls, it’s because he was good at his job and the girls who came in noticed it every now and then. Could they have wanted free ice cream too? Sure, but I don’t know one woman sliding her panties off over some chocolate mint.
If girls are everywhere and a man is halfway decent to look at and talk to, he’s going to be just fine. He doesn’t need to start a blog. He doesn’t need to work at KING. He just has to put himself in a position where there are girls and he will flourish. I mean, just ask a local firefighter how many girls they get everyday just for showing up on the job int heir uniform. Women love firefighters. Those guys practically have groupies.
But I would never call a female fan of mine a groupie. Some women just like the stuff I write, and for them along with everyone else who supports my blog, I am thankful everyday. This blog has always been about women, but never about getting them. Instead, I’m writing about something I’m actually interested in, which is my life and the women involved in my life who stick around not because I have a blog but because they like the guy behind it.
By the way, if any readers are going to be down at Essence Fest this weekend, feel free to go to the Contact page and email me. I’m not guaranteeing anything, as I’m going to be macking, hanging, and working, but if you see me around, please say hi. I would definitely jump at the opportunity to say thank you in person.