The Real Reason He Didn’t Call Her Back After She Gave It Up
I actually just wrote close to 900 words on this subject, only to see it all get erased by WordPress, so I’m going to skip the semantics of my introduction I wrote in the previous draft and instead just get right into it.
So here it is, as the title says, the real reason men don’t call women back after sex.
Every time a woman gives it up to a man and immediately sees her phone calls not being returned and her emails being ignored, she usually has a long list of theories. These theories include everything from she gave it up to soon, to the man lied to her and is actually in a relationship. Well how about this theory: The reason a man isn’t calling the woman back after she gave it up is because the woman was bad in bed — as in not good, as in so not good he doesn’t want to do it again, as in because he doesn’t want to do it again, he won’t be calling her back anytime soon.
Don’t believe me? Ask a male friend or acquaintance right now.
Go ahead. I’ll wait.
See? I told you.
Now every woman is sure to ask, what constitutes bad sex, and the truth is, I don’t know. But I do know I’ve had it, and I one of the effects of it is never wanting to have sex with the same person again.
When it comes to men, there are two types. Those who care about their reputation in the bedroom and those who don’t. For the sake of this conversation, pay no attention to the latter. Instead, let’s focus on the former individual. This is the type of guy who knows if he doesn’t come with his A game, he’s probably never going to hear from the woman again. I’ve been this guy a couple of times in my life. Try to put on the best show possible, and instead of applause, I’m hearing the woman’s voice mail in the subsequent days and weeks after.
Oh well, sometimes, that’s the way it goes. As a man, I understand this. Women on the other hand, never understand this.
In the conversations I have had with all the men I know who settle down, one of the common denominators I notice is the women with whom they are settling down is the sex is off the hook. That’s what they say and that’s what makes sense. I mean, honestly, who in their right mind believes if a man really was given the time of his life he wouldn’t go back for repeat visits? Men, moreso than women, are creatures of habit. So when we find something we like, we continue to go back to the well over and over. No man ever says, “That was great! I NEVER want to do it again!” And for us, sex has to be great in order for us to continue having sex with the same person, it can’t just be good. Good sex only keeps a man wanting more and more sex from more and more women. Great sex is what keeps a man wanting more and more sex from the woman who gave it to him.
Last week, in a post I wrote entitled “Five Compliments Women Should Learn To Appreciate”, one of the compliments I wrote was the “good in bed” compliment. The reason most women don’t appreciate hearing such a thing is because they believe a man thinks every woman is good in bed, but the truth is they’re not. In keeping with what I said last week, this is the “bad pizza theory” updated. Sex, like pizza, is good even when it’s bad. The thing is, like bad pizza, when we have bad sex, we’re never going back for a repeat visit.
Unfortunately ladies, I have no solutions for this problem. Nor do I have any advice as to how to deal with this, other than saying, it happens to the best of us. And to any woman I slept with who is reading this thinking I’m talking about you because I never called again, take no offense. You didn’t call me back either. My bad.