Why Won’t This Girl Let Her Friend Come Home With Me?
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I’ll never forget this one night my boy and I went out to this club. That night, I was his wing man as he was getting to know a pretty girl who was out with her girls. By the end of the night, the girl was a little intoxicated, but not sloppily and nonsensically so, and all she wanted to do was take my boy back to her place.
Meanwhile, the girl’s friends were trying to stop it from happening. That’s when I had to step in like a referee. As the girls protested saying they didn’t know my friend, I decided to make introductions to the whole group. Then, remembering all of their names, I told each of them (there were three total) to call this number right away. The number was my number. I told each of them to put their first and last names, then I texted them with my boys number. Told them to call his number.
And why was I doing all of this? Because this is what good wingman’s do, they assist their boys. And what do “good” girlfriends do? They act difficult and try to block their friend’s good time. Bad girlfriends. Bad.
I understand there are risks to going home with a man who is still more stranger than friend, but I want to know something from the women: Are girls really protecting their friends from a possibility of danger or are they just being Debbie Downers?
The reason I ask this question is because well, I want to know what exactly are these risks girls are protecting their friends from. The most drastic occurrence I can see happening as a consequence of a woman going home with a man she barely knows is she gets physically harmed or disappears. Both of these things are tragic, horrible situations I would wish on no one and I don’t mean to make light of them when I say this but…If I was going to do any harm or play a part in doing any harm to this girl’s friend, how smart would it be for me to show my face in public, and be the last man everyone sees with her before the harmful things happened to her? Like, if I was going to actually try to do something against the law with her friend, why would I put the pre-meditated moves on display for everyone to witness?
Another unsafe thing I’m pretty sure women protect their friends from is STDs. This is a valid concern, I absolutely believe this to be true, but isn’t it a valid concern every single time our friends hook up with someone new?
But if it’s not this reason, it’s another reason like, “You barely know him.” And I always want to reply to such a remark by saying, “Wait, who said we barely know each other?”
I’ll definitely agree in these circumstances, the girl and I don’t know each other that well. But we know each other well enough; well enough to want to go home with one another, and really how well do two people need to know each other to do that? We’re just trying to have some fun. With each other. Naked. So when the girl tries to tell my new girlfriend-for-the-night she barely knows me, she needs to understand, such arguments are relative. It makes me want to say, “Well you barely know the bartender and yet, you let him pour you alcohol. How safe is that?”
But in some instances, the reason a girl doesn’t want her friend to come home with me is not because she’s concerned for her friend’s safety, and it’s not because of some lack of familiarity with me. The best reason I can possibly think of for a girl not letting her friend come home with me is because the girl is a selfish friend who only thinks for herself. And what happens is because the girl herself would never go home with a guy like me, for no other reason but I’m not her type, she is therefore trying to keep her girl from doing the same thing. I mean, really, let’s think about that for a second. If the girl wasn’t my type, then of course it’s easy to tell her friend to not come home with me because if I was the girl’s type she would join her friend, and the two of them would come home with me, right?
After the concern for safety and lack of familiarity reasons are crossed off the list, what other reason would a girl have for telling her friend, “No girl. Come home with me”? What’s going on the next day? Church? Well good, because I go to church too. I’ll have her home before service.
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