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Girls You Shouldn’t Fall For: The Girl You Only Take Out Once Edition

September 9th, 2010 Leave a comment Go to comments

Today, I want to pay my respect to all the smart, crafty women who know exactly how to get what they want out of a man. I’m not talking about the gold diggers. I’m not talking about the sexually independent women who know how to separate their bodies from their hearts and get theirs like a man gets his.

I’m talking about all the women who know how to bring a man in and out of her life for one night only without giving up any part of her body and giving up any part of her wallet. I’m talking about the women who need a man in their life to distract them from the man they really want in their life and take advantage of the opportunity to do so just as soon as it presents itself. Those women are SMART in all caps.

No one ever really talks about these women, largely because they’re not gold diggers and they’re not overtly sexual. They don’t look for opportunities to take a man for everything he’s worth, or sleep with him at a moment’s notice. These are a different type of woman using men for a different type of reason.

In my lifetime I’ve had a couple of one night stands. Some were by design, others by accident. No hard feelings though, right? I certainly hope not, because I don’t have any hard feelings towards the women who used me for one night.

And here come the, “Are you sure you’re not bitter?” comments.

No, I’m not bitter, I’m simply acknowledging and giving credit where credit is due. For those who don’t know about these women, watch out for them because they’re a sly little bunch. A man doesn’t need to spend money on this girl, and he might not even sleep with this girl, all he needs to do is show up, like her a lot, tell her how beautiful she is, appreciate her company, acknowledge it, show her the time of her life in the most innocent way possible, and then that’s all she wrote.

She needed that. All of it. You know why? Because lately, the man in her life — either the one she is in a relationship with, the one she just broke up with, or the one she really wants to get with — hasn’t been doing what she wants him to do. Sure he’s been saying the right things, but he hasn’t taken her to the movies in like forever. All he wants to do is stay in the house or he is too busy for her or he doesn’t give her the kind of attention she wants.

So here I come, Mr. Distraction, ready to serve up a nice night of mindless fun that she will not get attached to in anyway whatsoever. I’m like the great article she read in the waiting room of a doctor’s office. She enjoyed it, and yes, she will probably tell her friends about it, but she’s not there to read the article. The real reason she’s there is to see the doctor. I was just an added bonus to help make the time waiting go by faster.

This isn’t about being the nice guy who finishes last because there’s no such thing. The guy who finishes last is the guy to whom she’s not attracted. And this isn’t about women getting us guys back for all the times we have used them because I know those women will eventually find revenge can cause self-inflicting pain.

Like I said, this just to shed some light on a very specific situation where a woman picks the funny, fairly good-looking guy who likes her and uses him to take her mind off the other funny, fairly good-looking guy she likes, for one night only.

Yes, ladies and gentlemen, I know what it’s like to be that guy, the former one. I know what it’s like to have the time of my life with a woman who felt the same way for one night, but wished it was with someone different. And some would call this dating like a man, but I call it dating like a woman, because men aren’t that slick. Only a woman can make a man feel like he took her on the best date ever, tell him he’s the nicest guy ever, then turn around and go back to the guy who forgot how to make her feel the same way.

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  • Needalilhlp

    Wow this finally explains the aituation im in. I’ve been trying to figure this out for almost 3 weeks. Went on a perfect date with a woman that seems to parallel my dream girl. I’ve never had more in a common with a woman, EVER. We both had a great time. Like that article she read at the Dr’s office; she told her girls about it ( My cousin is her sorrority sister). But Im a distraction. Great lol, hopefully next time I get it right.

  • jess

    I’m also this woman, trying to get away from your other incarnation, “the friend I think I love who kind of sort of but not really loves me back.” you’re a keen social observer.