What A Man Might Do When His Woman Stops Laughing
I don’t think all men cheat. I used to, as recently as a couple of months ago as a matter of fact, but then I woke up and realized all that was a belief. I had no actual proof all men cheated. Why would I believe such a thing? I could easily believe something different. So I did.
These days, I don’t put the act of cheating beyond any man, but I don’t automatically think a man will cheat. I do think men have it in them to do so. And if they ever do, I know exactly the type of woman with whom he’ll do it. Now before I reveal her, understand, this is a theory I have. Just a theory. I don’t know if this is true or not, but I do know a thing or two about cheating, seeing as I’ve done it once or twice in my life. I say that with no pride in my heart, just stating the facts.
But who knows? I could still have no idea whether or not any of this is true. Like I said, it’s just a theory, but I’ll give it a shot anyway.
If a man ever cheats, the type of woman he will do it with is the woman who will laugh at all of the jokes his girlfriend or wife used to laugh at. I know it seems preposterous, but bare with me.
I really can’t put my finger on what it is about a woman’s laugh that makes it so addictive to a man’s ears. Men aren’t asking to be considered comedians, but I don’t know one man who doesn’t think he’s funny, and I really don’t know any man who doesn’t want to be funny to his woman. A man’s jokes are the new giant c*ck (excuse my French); every man thinks he has them, and they always want to show them off. When they meet a woman they can’t get from good looks alone, they know their ability to be funny might do the trick. Even more true is the woman who laughs at his jokes. The more she likes him, the more she laughs. Every man knows that.
And the less she likes him, the less she laughs. Every man knows that too.
Not to quote rappers or anything, but to quote the rapper Scarface, “You wanna go out, and try find that smiling face…”
I heard that line four years ago, in a song called “Girl You Know”. It always struck a deep chord with me because it pointed to what I felt was at the core of what most men are searching for when their relationship isn’t what it used to be. This is not to say it’s right, because it isn’t right. As a matter of fact, it’s wrong to step out of a relationship in search of anything missing from said relationship, but it doesn’t change the fact that people still do it. So instead of trying to figure out something that has been going on in relationships for as long as relationships existed (stepping out of them), let’s instead figure out what brings a person to step out.
Another smiling face.
Every man remembers the jokes his woman laughed at the hardest. He saves them for the future lulls of silence between her and him. When that moment comes, he’ll bring the joke back up just to see her chuckle or smile the way she did when she first heard it. They also remember the joke for the other girls who might come around later, when his girl at home has stopped laughing at them.
I know this sounds crazy, like a joke even, that all a woman needs to do to keep a man is laugh at his jokes, but my point is not about the jokes so much as it is about the man who says them. He never was a comedian, but he loved it when his woman used to make him feel like one; when she used to laugh at all his jokes. Instead these days, he’s just saying “Damn, it was just a joke.” And she’s saying, “Well it wasn’t funny.” So now all those lulls of silence he used to fill with wisecracks and quick wit will no longer be filled with anything, and the search for a smiling face will pick back up where it last left off.
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