Advice From Hot Girls: The Readers Edition
Welcome everyone, to my humility. “Advice From Hot Girls” is a new series I’m adding to UIGM for the sake of changing the plenty I don’t know about women, to the plenty I do know; the plenty I need to learn about women, to the plenty I learned.
As many readers have told me, the UIGM comment section is just as engaging and fun to read as my posts. So I decided to marry my lack of knowledge about the opposite sex with the remarkable candor of my readers, and thus “Advice From Hot Girls” was born. Here’s how it works:
I will ask one question or lay out a dilemma I am having with the opposite sex. Then I go on a rant to give the question context, and ask you all to offer me the best answer or solution, which you all will leave in the comment section. And don’t worry about what I’m going to do with the advice or answers given. If it’s good I’ll put it into practice, and rest assured, probably blog about what happened as a result.
Oh and to my male readers, don’t leave. Stay and you might learn something too.
Now, without further ado, my first dilemma I need a woman’s take on.
HOW DO I TELL A WOMAN SHE SUCKS IN BED WITHOUT HURTING HER FEELINGS?
Ladies, let’s face it. Some of you are not good in bed. And I know you all know this because I’m pretty sure every one of you believe you’re better in bed than all of your friends. Combined. So therefore, you also know or at least have to figure one of your friends isn’t good in bed. Right?
Now, let’s say I slept with that girl. The friend of yours who isn’t good. And let’s also say, to avoid any cliche answers, I have done everything I could to work with her and nothing seems to be working. Maybe I don’t want to tell her she sucks in bed (because not only is that relative, it’s also mean), but I do feel it’s necessary for me to express to this girl that however good she thinks she is, it’s only in her imagination.
Of course, some might say I could just show she’s not good in bed by just not sleeping with her anymore, but we all know how women get when a man is no longer interested in sleeping with them. They start suspecting it’s because of another woman. But sometimes, it isn’t (as I have stated before). Sometimes, it’s the very woman we’re sleeping with who has affected a man’s libido to the point where he doesn’t want to do it anymore. So how do men tell a woman such a thing?
I thought about this yesterday after I wrote my post where I vowed to never have unprotected sex until I get married. One of the biggest myths about condoms people like to perpetuate to avoid wearing them is a man can’t achieve a climax with one on. But that is just not true. What is true is a man can’t achieve a climax when he is with a woman whose skills in bed are sub-par. If a man can achieve a climax with a condom on, then what’s the reason he can’t, especially if he is using the same brand he’s always used?
If your answer to the question is, “Well, he probably can’t reach his climax because his partner isn’t bringing her A game, or her well runneth dry often”, you’re thinking like I’m thinking. I would like to know how to tell her this so when I do decide to stop sleeping with her she doesn’t think the problem is another woman, she knows the problem is her.
Oh and one more thing before I open up the floor to answers/suggestions: You can be real. You can be nice. But I would really appreciate it if we can try to maintain a combination of the two. Imagine this was you (fellas, your girl) we were talking about, how would you (fellas, your girl) like to be told you’re (fellas, she’s) not great in bed?
Thanks in advance!
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