Five Major Dating Milestones For Men
In the early stages of a relationship, men have their own milestones. It’s not to say women don’t have the same ones, but what has a tendency to happen is some women get caught up in these moments that are important to them, then are surprised to see their man’s nonchalant reaction to the same moment. They think the man isn’t taking things as seriously as her or didn’t feel the gravitas of whatever just happened.
Some men just don’t see the same big deal a woman sees. For some men, their big deals come at a different time. And let me add, before I get into exactly what those moments are, I know this isn’t all men I’m talking about here. This is just some of them and some women, as well, might agree these are milestones for them too. So here it is, the five major dating milestones for men.
THE KISS HELLO AS OPPOSED TO THE KISS GOODBYE
The first kiss has always been a dating benchmark. Even some men are waiting for the moment to lock lips with the girl they’ve been dating. Nine times out 10, it’s going to happen when two people say goodbye to one another, but a first kiss goodbye says little to nothing at all. A lot of times, it’s a formality of sorts. But what’s not a formality is locking lips with someone upon greeting them. Kissing someone hello is a game-changing statement because it’s speaks volumes more than a kiss goodbye. All a kiss goodbye says is, “I had a great time with you tonight.” A kiss hello says, “I plan to have a great time with you tonight.”
THE THIRD DATE AS OPPOSED TO THE FIRST DATE
I actually think this is something men and women can agree upon, but we certainly don’t act like it. When either gender goes out on a first date with someone they really, really like they set the bar so high, they almost cannibalize themselves. Let’s calm down people.
The first date is to give me a better sense of the woman I asked out on a date. The second date is to see if the things I came away liking on the first date still hold true. And the third date is to say she passed the previous two and now some real fun can begin. If I date a woman for the third time, 100 percent of the time, I’m doing it again, as opposed to the first date (50 percent) and the second date (75 percent).
PUBLIC TIME AS OPPOSED TO PRIVATE TIME
Who cares if I can hang out with a girl in private? If we’re in our own homes, acting civilized and getting along, that’s great, but at some point, we’re going to leave our respective lairs. Together. What’s going to happen then? Just because the woman I’m dating can enjoy a nice bottle of wine from the comfort of her couch, and doesn’t act up, does not mean I can take her out somewhere to do the same thing. She can actually be the type of woman who stands up on bars after about two glasses and the only reason I didn’t know is because I don’t have a bar at my apartment. I believe a couple who can party together, can chill together, but a couple who can chill together, isn’t necessarily as versatile.
MEETING FRIENDS VERSUS MEETING FAMILY
Don’t get me wrong, my mom, sister, and grandmother must still co-sign a woman I care about, but there is nothing like the co-signature of my closest friends. The thing is, I spend more time with my friends and see my friends more often than I see my family, and though most of that is based on simple geography, a lot of it is also based on how I socialize.
Chances are, I will probably have to split more time between my woman and my friends than a woman and my family, but if I had a woman my friends actually liked, no time needs to be split. Also, the way my friends know me as a man is more accurate than the way my family knows me as a son, brother, and grandson respectively. In other words, my mother, sister, and grandmother will co-sign a woman based on what they think is best for me and if I disagree, they will let it go because it’s what makes me happy. My boys on the other hand will co-sign a woman based on what they know is best for me and if I disagree, they’ll say I have no idea what I’m talking about and bring something up from my past to prove their point.
SECOND TIME HAVING SEX AS OPPOSED TO THE FIRST TIME
This may sound weird but the more I like a girl, the more self-conscious I am about the first time we sleep together, and the only reason I feel comfortable saying this is because I know a lot of men feel the same way. Most women wait until they’re comfortable with someone to sleep with them, most men get comfortable with sleeping with someone. Though I’ve had some great first times, the second time has always been better, even if the first time was good. I may never get a chance to make a first impression, but I should be given another chance to blow that first impression out the water.
Did some stretching this morning, and some push-ups and crunches; thinking about meditating. Any tips? Also, who has some good habits to stop checking email so obsessively?
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