Here Is Another Crazy First Date Idea
For those who have been reading the blog for a while now, I am the undisputed King of wacky date ideas. To this day people poke fun at me for a post I wrote last Winter about taking women out for soup; an idea I believe is still genius. Then, I wrote about “PBS and Service Dating”; again, two ideas I would urge anyone to try themselves.
In both instances, many women called me out for being cheap; accusing me of coming up with these dates as some sort of ploy to avoid coming out of my pocket. Now I suppose to a degree that is true, after all, I am a kid who grew up with parents who said I don’t need milk for my cereal, water is just fine. Excuse me for wanting to avoid a cliche date all in the name of saving a couple of dollars. What some women call cheap, I call creative, and what some women call a good time, I call boring ways to spend money.
Thus, I continue to find new and interesting ways to spend time with a woman I want to get to know (that is the definition of dating: going out with someone you want to get to know, not someone we like already, but I digress) without spending a whole lot money. Here is my latest one.
SO IF YOU’RE NOT BUSY ON SATURDAY, I WAS WONDERING IF WE CAN RUN SOME ERRANDS TOGETHER
I want to show up at a woman’s place with a to-do-list in my hand filled with a bunch of places I have to go and tasks I have to take care of, and I would like for her to not only join me, but also bring her own to do list too. Maybe we can knock things out together and if things are really going well, we can get a bite to eat at the food court in the mall, where most errands need to be ran.
The reason errand running as a first date is so ideal is because it immediately puts both of us in a comfort zone and if there’s one thing I have learned about dating it is comfort is king. I don’t like to seduce or charm a woman through romance. I like to make her laugh, smile, and feel like we’ve been hanging out forever. In my experiences, the most effective way to make her feel this way is by going to Target with her.
I know, it’s crazy, right? Target? Are we going to slow dance to a demo of Sounds Of Nature over in the candles aisle of the Housewares section? Well, only if she’s into that sort of thing! But even if she isn’t, there’s romance in Target, people.
Just think of all the things a person has to do in Target and what those things can reveal about a person. If we’re in the greeting cards section and she says, “Oh wait, my co-worker just had a baby, I need to get her a card.” I can tell she’s thoughtful. If she is browsing for an extra long period of time in the cookware section, I believe it’s safe to assume she enjoys cooking, and since I enjoy eating, a whole conversation about the kitchen can ensue. Every time I’m in Target, I enjoy grabbing one of the big balls and shooting it in the basket, so clearly she has gone out on a date with a big kid. The list goes on and on.
But I’m only using Target as an example of how effective errand running can be. What makes errand running dates really the best way to spend time together is they represent what is ultimately going to be the way her and I spend most of our time together should we ever end up in a relationship.
One of the most genius scenes in the movie Old School is when Frank (Will Ferrell) describes the weekend he’s about to have with his new wife. Frank’s friends ask him what he’s doing for the weekend and he starts talking about all the paint they’re going to buy and how excited he is about a trip the two of them are taking to the Home Depot to pick up a bunch of stuff for the house. I love that scene so much because I always thought it epitomized what qualifies as dating in a monogamous relationship.
Couples who have been together for a long time look to certain life projects as a way to spend quality time together. In any relationship I have ever been in, the times I remember the most are when we would do something like go grocery shopping together. Another movie, 500 Days of Summer, shows the two main characters having their most fun running around an Ikea as one of their first dates, and though my experience with an ex-girlfriend at Ikea was nowhere near as fun (maybe I’ll write about that one tomorrow), the scene demonstrated how even in the beginning stages of a relationship, the comforts of a place like Ikea bring two people closer together.
When I went to Little Rock, Arkansas earlier this year, I met a girl at Little Rock’s annual First Friday. I didn’t have a lot of time in town, so I needed to move fast and asked her what she was doing the next day. She said she had to go run errands, so I asked if I could join her. At first, she thought I was crazy for wanting to do such a thing, but I explained to her since I’m from out of town it would be a good way for me to see the city and spend time with her. Kill two birds with one stone. She obliged and we had a fantastic time running errands, so much so the two of us stay in touch to this day.
Any two people can enjoy each other over a good meal, but the real question is am I with a woman who knows how to be patient and pleasant in the long line at the exchange counter, or am I with the woman who goes off at customer service all because they will only give her store credit because she lost her receipt? I’d rather know the answers to those questions sooner than later.
I signed up for Toastmasters and my first meeting is tomorrow. One of my goals is to be a more effective speaker, so this should help me with that.
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