The Ladies Man
Excuse me everybody, today’s post is a note to self. Don’t mind me and read on if you’d like.
Okay, I admit, this blog is helping me in the ladies department.
Happy now? There, I admitted it, even after I once tried to deny it.
It’s weird for me to admit that my life has changed since I started this blog, but it’s time for me to face the facts. My life has changed since I started the blog, and I sometimes wonder if that’s a good thing or a bad thing.
Don’t get me wrong, I roll with the changes. All the attention I get from the opposite sex largely because of this blog is flattering, humbling even. For instance, just the other day a reader had the gumption to invite me to a Pittsburgh Steelers game. Now who is to say such a moment wouldn’t have happened without the blog? I don’t know, but I do know no woman ever invited me to a Pittsburgh Steelers game before I had the blog.
It has gotten to the point now where at least once a week, some girl I have never met before is reaching out to me and asking if we can meet up. Sometimes they say they want to talk about writing and blogging, which is something I always take seriously. Others tell me they’re a fan and would just like to say hello. A few have told me they want to take me out on a date.
All of it is cool with me and I would be lying if I said this isn’t a part of the dream. There could be a thousand reasons why a woman likes me or is drawn to me, but I can’t think of one more flattering than my writing. So none of this post is meant to be some diatribe about how it sucks all these women want me because I’m a good writer. Being wanted for even the most trivial things is sometimes a good feeling.
What this really about is my ability to reign it all in and control it to some degree. I didn’t grow up having a way with women, which is probably why a part of me still feels like a kid whenever a girl I like likes me back. The first girl I ever liked, didn’t like me back, so I came into the game in second grade with a losing record.
From that point on, getting women was always an uphill battle or at least it felt like one. Sure there were times where I got the girl I wanted, but certainly not every girl, and even more certainly, I never really felt like I could just stand somewhere, not do a thing, and let women come up to me. I am friends with guys who have that ability, and trust me, there’s a huge difference between them and I.
But things are different these days, and though they were becoming different even before I started the blog, they’re really different now. So much so, it’s slightly disconcerting that I don’t know what to do with the little bit of attention I have received because it’s different from what it used to be. Before I had the blog, the attention I received from the opposite sex felt like something I had to work for, now I feel like it’s a per diem for the work I do, if that makes any sense.
In a way, I feel like some sort of ladies man. When I started this blog it was to write about things I already experienced, not to get more experiences to write about. As I have always said, my life controls the blog, the blog does not control my life. But the blog is definitely having an impact on my life, and so now it’s on me to make sure I channel the impact in a way that isn’t negative. The question is, how do I do it?
Well, that’s easy. I like a girl who doesn’t like me back or maybe she does like me back, but not nearly as much as her.
I used to always want the girls who wanted me. It was just easier that way. But now I am starting to meet more than one girl who wants me (and when I say more than one, I mean two, maybe three). Maybe it’s more, I don’t know. Like I said, I only get one request a week to be taken out or one compliment a week so it’s not like I have women asking me to sign their breast. Although that would be awesome! Wouldn’t it? I mean, I can just see a girl now coming up to me and pulling down the collar of her shirt and…sorry, I digress.
Where was I? Oh yeah, the attention I receive and how it has me feeling like some sort of ladies man.
I mean, yeah, I’ll take it, but not to my head. A lot of women tell me I get a lot of women, and honestly, I don’t know what the number is to qualify such a statement. Is it more than one? If so, then sure, I get a lot of women. And these days, I’m getting more women than ever, but I take it all in stride. Women who like me after reading my blog are no different than women who like me after meeting me in some social setting. I don’t differentiate between the two because even though I can appreciate a girl who likes me, this new ladies man, is more concerned with the girls I like.
I’m about to undergo a new physical fitness routine with a trainer. We’re documenting it on video so you all will see that footage at some point. New diet and new workout, I’m excited.
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