How A Man Waits For The Woman To Come Around
About two weeks ago, I wrote a post telling women the optimum time she should sleep with a guy she is dating is one week. A few women agreed, most women disagreed. The polarizing points of view made for an interesting conversation in the comments section, which is always entertaining for other readers and I to read. It was obvious the amount of wait time people apply to their relationships was not uniformed.
Everyone had their idea of how much time should pass, and their own reasons why it was the optimal time for them. But for the women who disagreed with my proposed length of time, allow me to show how a man waits for the woman of his affection to come around. What you are about to read is a completely unscientific analysis, broken down on n a week by week basis over the period of one month.
Week One: Taking Care Of Himself
So the woman thinks a week is way too soon to give it up to this guy she really likes. The guy really likes her too and wants no one else but her so the first week is the height of his focus. He’s still all about being with her, and as a result, ever since he’s met her, he’s held off on the other women he was seeing. He’s no longer answering their late night phone calls, and he’s declining all offers on the table because he’s focused on this current girl. So how is he holding up? Pretty good, because what he’s doing every night is taking care of himself before he goes to bed. And who is he thinking about? Well, when men reach a certain age, they have built up enough fantasies to go back to those, so he has a plethora of experiences to choose from. The girl he’s definitely not thinking about every night he takes care of himself? The girl he’s dating. Take that for what you will, ladies.
Week Two: Taking Care of Himself Again, But Now With Assistance
Just so we’re clear, all the times given are compounded by at least a week or so. This was the week when he was just trying to get on the radar of the woman he is now dating; the woman who is making him wait. So let’s just assume, for the sake of this post, that what is now two weeks he’s been waiting for her has now been at least four weeks since he has gotten any. During the first week, he was doing just fine, but this second week is all bad. He’s now entertaining at least one of those offers he declined in the first week. In other words, he is now once again sleeping with an old flame or an old sex buddy. He’s not doing this because he dislikes the current girl he’s dating — the girl who has made him wait for two weeks now — he’s doing it because he understands she needs a little more time. Since he likes her too, he wants to respect that time and not get distracted by his raging hormones, so he curbs them by sleeping with a girl he used to sleep with.
Three Weeks: Someone New
You know how a girl who has been with her boyfriend for three years will question whether or not he wants to spend the rest of his life with her? Well when a girl makes a guy chase him for three weeks, he begins to wonder if she likes him at all, especially if he’s done everything right. So now what happens? He officially starts liking someone else. Does he still like this girl who has made him wait three weeks? Of course he does. It’s just some early infatuation going on, so he can easily shift those feelings he had for three-week girl to a new woman and like two girls at the same time. Personally, I don’t think any woman who makes me wait three weeks is interested in me, but if I’m still around I think maybe there’s a shot, but obviously I can’t bet the house on her. So instead, I balance out my feelings for the girl of the past three weeks with a new girl and start seeing what the lay of the land is over there. Ladies, take note. If the optimal time for a man is a week, the optimal time for a woman is two weeks. Take any longer to take action on a good guy and watch him become a good guy for someone else too.
Four Weeks: Text Message Status
How can one get cut out of someone’s life without being completely cut out? Text messaging, that’s how. All that calling the guy used to do, the sweet emails he used to send. Those are all gone. Four weeks in and the woman he was so into is still giving him the first date treatment? Ladies, please. It’s not that men don’t have time for that. They don’t have the pride for it. Maybe two weeks in this was a game he was willing to play, a light scrimmage if you will, but now, he’s ready for a real game, with pads and everything, yet she’s still talking about some two hand touch. See, a man like me doesn’t chase sex, he chases girls that he likes. If a woman makes me wait four weeks, I just think she doesn’t really like me back, so I’m moving on, but with some semblance of hope. So I stay in touch with her, not by email, not by calling, not by asking if we can hang out. I just send her a quick text that says, “hi stranger.” If she responds back, a chance remains, If she doesn’t, I knew I never had one in the first place.
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