Before Her, There Were Other Fine Women
One of the worst arguments I ever got into with an ex-girlfriend of mine was over another girl I said was cute. My ex swore up and down she had the face of a horse, I thought she had the a** of a horse and her face was fine. But our disagreement wasn’t so much about how pretty this girl was or wasn’t.
What really got me fired up and took our argument to near break up levels was when she tried to use my opinion of this one girl we clearly disagreed on and use it as ammo to say something about the girlfriends who came before her. She said, “Well, I would really hate to see what type of girls you dated before me.”
I. Went. Off.
What is it about a woman’s ego that makes her believe before she came along her man’s standards were below average? Better question: Why do women believe their taste in other women is better than a man’s when we all know good and well it isn’t.
I understand some men have acquired tastes, but women, their taste is all types of off. The best proof I have of this is the way women love to say how cute their friends are knowing good and well a large portion of them are far from it.
If they were, a man wouldn’t have cannibalized his own opportunities at getting with them by focusing on his main girl.
I have been with women who I know are legitimately beautiful only to be told by a couple of my female friends, “She’s cute.” Then when I ask them to explain, they repeat what they said and follow it up with a smile, as if that’s further affirmation. One thing I have learned overtime is if a woman says the woman I’m with is cute, that means she is at least in the 85 percentile. Some girls say Beyoncé is cute, then turnaround and say her friend Becca is gorgeous. Well, I have seen a lot of Becca’s. I haven’t seen a lot of Beyonce’s.
Men don’t do these things. As a matter of fact, the number one reason why a lot of men get jealous when their ex-woman moves on with a new man is because they automatically think their ex-woman got an upgrade. The man scorned can be 6’8 and still, the minute he finds out his old woman has found a new man, he thinks she’s moved on with someone who is 6’10. If he’s the type of guy who hits the gym seven days a week, he thinks his woman has moved on with a guy who goes to the gym eight times a week. It’s not that he has low self-esteem. He’s just humbled.
Women are never humbled because they can never admit their man was the man before he started dating her and there are other girls who at the very least are as cute as her. Even Tyra Banks has a lookalike who is working at a McDonald’s drive through. Further proving God is a man, but I digress..
If I tell a woman she’s the most beautiful woman I’ve ever been with, it does not mean the rest of the women I’ve been with were floating around the 60th percentile, looking all average. Women who think they’re the best thing to ever happen to a man need to understand there were still plenty of good things with good women that happened before them. Stop thinking a man’s scale goes up and down. For some men, it goes side to side; they go from one fine woman to the next fine woman to the next fine woman.
When are women going to understand their man didn’t magically wake up one day and get an upgrade in taste? He’s always had good taste, that’s why he’s with her.
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