My Mom Is Now Concerned I Don’t Have A Girlfriend
Well, maybe “concerned” isn’t the right word. My mom isn’t concerned about the issue of me being single, but the other day her and I were having a heart-to-heart about life, mine specifically.
I was telling her how I was handling everything concerning my career, my finances, and my health. There were some areas of my life I felt good about; others, not so much. Her response was typically encouraging of a mother, but she caught me off guard when she said, “I do think you would feel better about some things if you had a significant other in your life.”
My mother has never ever said such a thing to me.
From the time when I was a kid coming home from kindergarten talking about some girl I like, my mom has always known I like girls. A lot. She’s never really had a hands on approach in my relationships unless I’ve asked her for advice, which never really was until my ex-girlfriend moved in with me. Other than those times, when it comes to me and women, my mom has always let her son make her own mistakes, knowing good and well I’ll make them early and often, but my heart is good and I will learn from them.
Since I’ve always been attracted to the opposite sex my mother has also never had to push on me finding a girlfriend or finding a girl I like. She knows no matter how busy life gets, I’ll always make time for the company of a woman. As a matter of fact, after my ex and I broke up, my mom was the first person to tell me to take a break from relationships. She said I had my fill and I could use some time to myself, enjoying the life of a single person.
I took her advice but now I’m thinking — and with the phone conversation we had, she’s proving it to be true — I’ve taken her advice too literally. Or is it for too long I have taken her advice?
I don’t know if my mom’s question means my bachelor ways have gotten out of control. As a matter of fact, I don’t think they have. I think my bachelor life is pretty typical of all bachelors, whether they live in a big city or a small one. People may think it’s somewhat of a tall tale, but trust me, it’s really no different than many men we know. If we add up all the years I’ve been single — two, going on three — it still won’t compare to all the years I spent going from one girlfriend to the next.
My mom knows that. She knows how much I’ve enjoyed this single life I live and how rewarding it’s been to my growth as a human being, but I also think maybe she sees something I’m missing that I don’t and though I don’t know if she’s right or not, I can’t say she doesn’t have a point.
I have been single for a couple of years now, and I would be lying if I said it has never concerned me or I haven’t thought about it. Of course I think about it, especially as I approach 30, because as I’ve said before, when I was 10 years younger, I could have sworn by now I would be married.
When I met my ex I thought I was on that track, only to mess it up, which makes me think, “Was I on the track and did I derail myself?” So yeah, those thoughts are prevalent. But never ever have I been so concerned with finding a girlfriend to the point where I put it on a list of priorities. Nor do I put staying single on that list of priorities. I don’t ever want to be proactive about either. My mother doesn’t want me to be either, at least I don’t think that’s what she was saying to me the other day when she said maybe a girlfriend would do me some good.
It was just a suggestion by her, but I must admit, I haven’t stopped thinking about it since.
The Process: Still on the diet, the workout though is going horribly this week. I’m going to Miami for the first time this weekend, I’ll get back on it next week when I return.
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