This Being An Uncle Thing Should Be Easy
The only thing I can write about today is the moment I just experienced meeting my six month old niece for the very first time in person.
When she was born on June 11, I must admit, I didn’t feel too different. I knew I was an Uncle, but I didn’t quite know what that meant, I didn’t know how to act. I was so clueless, I even wrote a post asking all my readers to tell me what makes a good uncle and to share memories they have of their uncles. For me, this was important, because I grew up with some great uncles, and I cared about being the same.
But now, as her and my sister take a nap in their room, I realize being a great uncle to my niece is going to be easy. I know that may sound egotistical, but allow me to explain.
Being around babies makes me uncomfortable. They’re so delicate and I’m so clumsy, so needless to say, we never get along really well. My niece is different, and now I know exactly what people mean when they say they may not like children but they’re fine with their own. I never care for being around children, but as soon as my sister opened up the door, I grabbed my niece and didn’t let her go for a good minute. Even as she sleeps, I wish I could pick her up and hold her.
Holding my niece, wanting to watch my niece, wanting to play with my niece, wanting to teach my niece about this crazy thing we call life is all I want to do now. A friend of mine called me earlier today because he had an extra ticket to the Miami Heat/New York Knicks game, box seats at that. Normally not being able to go would have made me upset, but as I was talking on the phone with him, my niece giggled. I’m fine with watching the game on TV and I’m fine with missing anything else for the sake of spending more time with my niece, and also, my family.
Seeing my sister as a mother, seeing her boyfriend as a dad, seeing my mom as a grandmother, it’s a sight to behold. For those who don’t know, my sister is three years my junior, but with her daughter in her arms, I feel like she’s just so much older than me now, like I’m the one who has to grow up and she’s the responsible adult.
I’m telling you all, this uncle thing is crazy. It really is, and I may be to new to it, but when I say I’m ready to do it, I couldn’t be more sure of myself. When I said being an uncle was going to be easy, it’s only because I can’t imagine what about it would make it hard. There’s nothing about being an uncle I don’t want to do. Sign me up for everything it involves because I’m ready for this next phase in my life more than I’ve been ready for anything else.
Of course, when people read this they might think all of this gushing I’m doing over my niece is coded language for wanting a kid of my own. As if to say now that I see my sister with a baby, it’s starting to spawn thoughts of wanting one of my own, but I really think that’s a stretch. I’m not ready nor am I saying I want to be a father anytime soon. All I’m simply saying is I’m ready to be an uncle, and I look forward to every minute of this experience.
I’m just going to wait until next week to record the next edition of the podcast. You all still have time to submit questions for consideration at my Formspring.