Five S*x and Dating New Year’s Resolutions I Hope I Stick To
Did you all miss me? Good. It’s nice to be missed.
When I returned home for the holidays, I had intentions of maintaining the blog, but after last Monday’s post, I fell ill and decided to take the week off. The break was necessary and even though it was the longest amount of time I ever went without posting, I felt it was for the best.
But now, with one full day left before I head back to New York City, I’m getting back into the swing of things.
And so today we begin anew. Like I do every Monday, I’m kicking things off with a list of five dating/sex resolutions I plan to abide by once the clock strikes 12 a.m. on January 1, 2011. Most of these resolutions won’t be sudden changes in behavior, as these are things I’ve kind of outgrown, but apt to regress to from time to time. Though I’m not necessarily a big believer in the idea of resolutions, I do feel another year is a clean slate, one in which I have a chance to do things differently. So with that being said, here are five things I’m going to do (or stop doing) regarding sex and dating in 2011.
NO MORE DATING WOMEN I WOULDN’T SLEEP WITH
Not to say I’ve made this a habit of mine in the past, but I want to make it a point that from now on I’m not doing any recreational dating. What is recreational dating? Well, it’s going out on a date just because I want the company of another person or as a courtesy, if a woman asked me out on a date, I would say yes. But now, no longer. Before I say yes in 2011, I’m going to assess whether or not I would want to share my bed with her, if I can’t see myself doing that, I won’t see myself sharing a dinner table with her. Oh, and by the way, please understand I am not saying every woman I go out on a date with has to sleep with me. Some of my commenters love to twist my words around to mean something I don’t mean.
NO MORE SLEEPING WITH WOMEN I WOULDN’T DATE
Now this is something I have made a habit of, recreational s*x. No longer. Just like I’m not going to date someone I wouldn’t sleep with, I’m not sleeping with someone I wouldn’t date. Men are especially guilty of sleeping with someone for the sake of a good story to tell, but honestly, I’ve told enough stories. It’s time for me to switch it up a little bit and start being way more selective about who I lay down with, not to say I wasn’t picky before. I’m just saying, I’m going to pick a little differently.
NO MORE TEXTING IN ALL CAPS
I’m not one of those people who is opposed to texting back and forth with someone. People who complain about someone texting too much get on my nerves more than a person who texts too much. But, I have grown to appreciate the sound of a person’s voice instead of their constant abbreviations of the word “you”. That being said, I’m no longer carrying on conversations via text if I get the urge to yell at the person. If I have something to text them in all caps, I’m dialing their number instead to chew them out.
NO SLEEPOVERS ON SCHOOL NIGHTS
Ever since I started working out in the mornings, my mornings have been more important than ever. I’m one of those people who enjoys getting up before the sun, working, eating a big breakfast, doing some writing. That’s been my thing for a while now, and even though I have still been able to accomplish my routine when I have slept over someone else’s, it’s never quite the same. Something about it is always slightly out of whack. That being said, no more sleeping over someone’s place Sun-Thurs, unless I don’t have to go to work the day after one of those days.
NO MORE LONG DISTANCE COURTING/DATING
By now, it’s well documented that I am not a fan of long distance relationships. Yet and still, whenever I go out of town, I somehow manage to meet someone and connect with them on a genuine level. What ends up happening is we keep in touch, and eventually make plans to see each other again. I’ve done this now enough times to know, I don’t want to do it again. This is not to say the people I already have met out of town are off the board. This is more like saying, in 2011, I’m not adding anymore area codes to the Rolodex. Nothing has been more frustrating than meeting great people who don’t live anywhere near where I live.
So there it is folks, my five new year’s resolutions when it comes to dating/sex. Feel free to share yours in the comments, and again, welcome back everyone. I missed y’all.
The Process: Worked out with mixed results while I was sick, but staying at it.
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