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The Intimacy of Close Games

On Monday, I wrote a post listing five things I won’t do with a woman until I get married. One of the items included attending a Pittsburgh Steelers game in Pittsburgh. As I explained, such a momentous occasion could only be shared with whom I’m going to spend the rest of my life. A girlfriend can definitely take me to a Pittsburgh away game, but a home game would be way too intimate.

Women understand how important sports are to men, because for some women, sports are just as important to them. What I think is sometimes missed is the kind of effect sports can have on a relationship. If a man and a woman can bond over something sports related, fantastic. But they must be careful. Few things will bring a couple closer together and have a more lasting effect on their relationship than a close game.

Three years ago, my ex-girlfriend and I watched the now legendary Super Bowl between the New York Giants and New England Patriots. My brother is a huge New York Giants fan, one of those die-hard fans who is easy to shop for come Christmas or birthdays because all the gift needs to be is something with the New York Giants logo on it. Ever since I moved to New York, I’ve always watched games at his apartment, my team and of course his team. The year my ex and I were together, she would join me and coincidentally, this was the year the Giants made their imprbable run to the Super Bowl.

With my team out of the playoffs, my ex and I were pulling for my brother’s team. Anyone who was following football during the 2007-2008 season remembers the drama surrounding that Super Bowl. The Giants were huge underdogs against a Patriots team that had yet to lose a game. Few people believed the Giants would even win, even though they had come close to defeating them just weeks earlier in the last regular game of the season.

For those who remember the game, I don’t need to explain how miraculous the Giants victory was. You saw it, and you probably still remember it. I know I do, and I remember two things specifically once the clock ran down and the Giants were declared Super Bowl Champion: The first is the image I have of my brother, totally inebriated and emotional, falling to his knees with tears in his eyes and hands raised in the air and all his friends, also New York Giants fans, jumping on top of him. And I also remember my ex-girlfriend running and jumping onto me, with a smile so big, you would’ve thought she was one of the teams cheerleaders (it should be noted, the Giants and the Steelers are the only two teams in the NFL who don’t have cheerleaders). I of course was excited too and for a few minutes, anyone who saw my ex and I would swear we changed colors from Steelers black and gold to Giants to blue and white.

The euphoria of such a dramatic victory didn’t leave when we left my brother’s apartment, for days her and I would be doing something and randomly one of us would say, “Can you believe the Giants won?” Then we would laugh and hi-five. Keep in mind, prior to her coming to New York to be with me, my ex had never watched a Giants game in her life. I don’t even think she watched an NFL game for all four quarters prior to moving in with me.

But even months before the Super Bowl, a similar thing happened to us when we watched the fight between Floyd Mayweather and Ricky Hatton. Once again, we were dealing with a sporting event that had a lot of buzz going into it. Those familiar with big boxing matches know HBO usually does a series called 24/7 where for a few weeks, they follow the fighters of an upcoming major match, and document their training and preparation. It’s quality television, whether you’re a boxing fan or not, and knowing this, I turned my ex-girlfriend onto the show because I knew when fight night came, she would be all in like I’m all in.

Sure enough, it worked like a charm. Remember how much Floyd dominated the fight, especially in the tenth round when he TKO’d Hatton? Those few seconds, when Mayweather was drilling Hatton, had me, my friends, and my ex standing up, yelling at the television, shadow boxing. When Hatton went down, headfirst into the turnbuckle, first thing my ex and I did was hug each other.

If my ex and I were still together, these memories would be great, but since we’re not, they can be bittersweet. This is the effect great, dramatic games will have on couples who choose to watch them together. I remember watching a regular season basketball game between the Sacramento Kings and the New York Knicks with another ex of mine back in 2005. This was a zero-stakes game, and I remember everything about it. Why? The game was close, and by the fourth quarter, that ex was all into it just like I was.

If a couple watching sports together is the equivalent of them sleeping in the same bed, watching a close game together is the equivalent of having sex in that bed they share; incredibly good, passionate, room-shaking sex. So this year, ith the NFL playoffs right around the corner, and my Pittsburgh Steelers one of the favorites to go to the Super Bowl, I’m relieved to not have to share the journey with anyone else but maybe a few friends, my brother, and his girlfriend. I’ve watched some very close games with some very important women in my life, and I don’t know if I like my memories mixing that way.


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  • Dancinggreenapple

    Agreed! Ladies if you’re man is a true football fan, just learn the game and put on a jersey. You’ll be glad you did! lol Sidenote: As a pro NFL cheerleader myself… just had to point out that the Steelers and Giants aren’t the only teams without cheerleaders. Neither do the Bears, Browns, Packers (they use a local college squad) and a few other teams. lol Sorry, couldn’t resist pointing that out. Goodday! 🙂

  • Dancinggreenapple

    *your man

  • Ray P

    Lions don’t have cheerleaders either. :-/ Nice post, a woman that can appreciate sports and really get into it is definitely a keeper.

  • Kwarmackii

    The Bears dont have cheerleaders either

  • sunt97

    Yeah I have a few of those moments. One pops into my mind and really saddens me because I can remember how much fun we were having that basketball season. We were into the games weekly and enjoyed that fact the other was so into the game. Dayum I miss that abotu him.

    Peace, Love and Chocolate

  • Scarlett D

    You’re so right, and I forgot how right you were ’til I read Tiffany’s comment…UGH! If one more person reminds me of him today and makes me remember some lovey moment that we shared, I will scream. I’ll do it!

  • miss. riss

    Ahh I know the feeling. My ex and I met right before the NBA playoffs in 07 and were totally into basketball and football together. He actually taught me all about football. We were in a fanatasy bball league together and everything. It was kinda sad to decline the invite this year 🙁

  • prettydrkskn

    I really liked this post because I can relate 100%. I went to a NCAA Final Four with my ex a couple of years ago and still have fond memories but at the same time they are bittersweet memories.

  • Tea

    I felt this post with my whole everything Unfortunately my Bears can’t ever make a Super Bowl win happen. I also date outside of my team (Colts fans, a Lions fan once and Cowboys fans… ick! I draw the line at Packers fans, they can kick rocks!)

    So all my game memories are with me being mad that my boo’s team won and mine didn’t or vice versa. Great post and #BEARDOWN

  • Leogoddess

    OMG I can totally relate to this all of it!!! That very game you spoke of brought my guy and I closer to together also. Actually it was pivoting moment, it was his bday so I planned a party and we had been dating strong for six month and our children were going to meet each other. I got all things Giants bday cake, balloons, the works. The kids loved each other so did all our friends and the Giants won. We’ll be married this September.