Girls You Shouldn’t Fall For: The Girl No One Likes Edition
I think I’ve mentioned this before, but if not, here we go.
During my high school years, every now and then I would go after school to visit my mom at her workplace. Whenever I or my sister walked into the restaurant where she was a waitress, we were always given the royal treatment. Anything we wanted from the menu; virgin smoothies on deck from the bartender; warm hellos from the entire staff. During those visits, my sister and I would always feel like we were VIPs, and it was all because of one thing: everyone at work liked my mother.
That ability, to be liked, is one of the most important qualities I need in any woman with whom I get into a relationship. I don’t need a woman with a large circle of friends, I don’t need to date miss popularity, but I also don’t want to date the woman no one else seems to like. I’m talking about the woman who no matter how many friends she has, no matter her social and family circle, she still is viewed as the “weird” one.
“Weird” for those who don’t know, is a euphemism other people use to describe someone they don’t really like. They get along with them, but they honestly don’t know why or how. It’s as though they became friends with this person by accident or the person just persisted their way into the circle. As a result, the girl is always jockeying for some sort of respect or genuine inclusion into the group. If her friends are getting together for drinks or a birthday, she’s a little worried she will be forgotten. She throws get-togethers herself, and is constantly checking the evite to see if everyone RSVP’d because she’s not so sure everyone will come.
This is the girl you don’t want to fall for, and for any girl who is reading this, the same can be said for guys.
Whenever I date a woman, I always try to get a sense of where a girl’s standing is amongst her group of friends. There’s nothing real scientific about my data gathering, I just observe. Is she the one everyone is calling for some sort of support and to share some good news? If so, she’s a keeper. Is she the one who is getting called for a ride but the girl who is asking for a ride is staying at another mutual friend’s pad? If so, pump brakes. I know we would like to all believe it should only matter what we think of the person we’re dating, but unless we’re going to be one of those reclusive couples, I need someone who plays well with others, not just me.