The No That Really Means No
Big shout out to a friend of mine who just asked for my take on some situation she has with a guy. It’s because of her I’m inspired to this post, which I might add is going to be short like yesterdays cause I’m busy.
Ladies, are you struggling to find a way to tell some guy in your life it isn’t going to happen, not in your lifetime, not in their lifetime, and if they come out looking the same way in their next lifetime, that lifetime too? Well, here’s what you have to say to him.
The reason why I don’t want to sleep with you is because I’m not sexually attracted to you. I tried to picture myself having sex with you, because I do like you as a person and you’re doing all the things I like guys to do, but I just can’t picture it. I tried and I can’t.
If you want to throw a “sorry” in at the end, feel free, but keep everything else. Memorize this and use it, because honestly, it’s the only kind of “no” a man understands.
Men want to sleep with 99 percent of the women they choose to approach. If a man is at a supermarket, and every single line checkout lane is equally long, the next criteria he uses to make his decision is which cashier is the one he would most likely sleep with. If we’re at a party, there are only two types of women we talk to: The girl with the friend we want to sleep with and her friend.
Sleepability is one of the biggest criteria men use to date or interact with a woman. This is a brutally honest fact about the character of most men, so if women know that, why would they not be brutally honest back? Don’t tell a man not interested, that’s not honest, that’s vague. A woman who says “not interested” is leaving too much room for interpretation and if a man really wants something, he will interpret the situation to work for him.
Tell a man why you’re not interested, and do it quickly. Because men are aggressive by nature, we can appreciate an aggressive no, even if it’s only in retrospect. For women who care about things like compassion, the less she knows about a man the easier it should be for her to say to him, “I’m not interested in you because I’m not attracted to you.” Take it from a man who has been shut down for such a reason, there’s no defense against such brutally honest logic.
When it comes to the truth, it’s always best to keep it real and keep it whole.