Playing Games With One Another
My ex and I had one solution for a lot of our more petty disagreements: Mancala.
Every once in a while it was Dominoes, but mostly, it was Mancala. For those who aren’t familiar with the game, a breakdown courtesy of Wikipedia:
Mancala games share a common general game play. Players begin by placing a certain number of seeds, prescribed by the variation in use, in each of the pits on the game board. A player may count their stones to plot the game. A turn consists of removing all seeds from a pit, sowing the seeds (placing one in each of the following pits in sequence), and capturing based on the state of board. This leads to the English phrase “Count and Capture” sometimes used to describe the game play. Although the details differ greatly, this general sequence applies to all games.
In the movie, Disappearing Acts Zora and Frank share a bond over a love for Scrabble. Another girl I used to date enjoyed beating me at Uno and my brother and his girlfriend are the first to get busy on a wide assortment of video games. Together.
So what am I talking about?
I’m talking about the underrated value of board games and puzzle-like activities in a relationship.
If there’s one thing I learned in my last relationship it’s the value of owning a good board game, something competitive and fun that two people can break out any moment. Not only are they a good way to spend quality time together and enjoy each other’s company, they are also a way to lower tempers and quell an argument. You two are beefing with another? Bust out some Jenga. Can’t figure out whose turn it is to make dinner? Don’t argue about it, play something for it.
Competition can breed resentment over those of us who probably take any little game too seriously, but only if we allow it. For the most part, a good game between couples is therapeutic, a necessary tool in keeping two people not only together, but from attempting to choke each other out. My grandparents on my dad’s side have been together for what I believe is close to 60 years and though I don’t know all the ways they have accomplished such a goal, I know one major factor has to be the closet full of board games they own. Another one of my friend’s is a nurse and owns the game Operation. Why? He likes dating doctors so when they come over, guess what’s going down? You guessed it. Operation. Winner takes all…their clothes off.
I don’t have very much time today, so I’m closing today’s post with one simple request from all my readers. What’s a great game couples should own? I know Scrabble is important, a deck of cards is essential, and I still enjoy Mancala, Jenga, and Dominoes (I’m a certified Dominologist). But I would like to know some more games to own or a good card game to not called War or Go Fish (both classics as well). I’m not in a relationship now, but I’m pretty sure when I do get in one, a good game will come in handy. So come on people, put me onto game.