Something Every Woman Should Say
The women who have been in my life have always been good to me, probably to an extent, more good than I have been to them, but that’s neither here nor there. They have been good to me, kind to me, respected me, loved me, and supported me, so when I look back at my time spent with them, it’s tough for me to decipher the highlights. When you’ve dated women as great as I have dated, history can look something like a fantasy where everything you could have ever wanted was had.
But there is one conversation from one ex-girlfriend of mine that stands out to me.
Well, to be honest, I don’t remember the whole conversation, just a moment within the conversation. I think about it often and though it was brief, I think the reason I’ll never forget it is because I don’t think there was ever a time where it was said to me before she said it and I most certainly can’t recall there being a time where it has been said since. She only said it to me once, and it was funny because when she said it, she immediately followed it up by saying, “I don’t think I’ve ever told you that before.” Then she repeated it again. This was two years ago, and I still remember the words, the sound, the time of day it was, and where I was sitting when I heard them, which may not mean much to anyone reading, but is a testament to how rare the words are said.
“I’m proud of you.”
Those were the words and they came out of nowhere. I heard them loud and clear but I caught myself hesitating to say “Thanks”. Matter of fact, that wasn’t even what I said in response. The word I said was, “Huh?” Then she said, “I don’t think I’ve ever told you that, I’m proud of you.”
She was right, she never told me that before. We were together for a long time and not once in our relationship did I hear those words from her, and oddly enough, not once did I hope to hear them from her.
When we’re in relationships we tell our person we love them, and a lot of other nice things, but as a man, I can honestly say, the words “I’m proud of you” resonate with me a lot louder. That may not be the case for all men, but there is a direct connection between my pride and my heart. Could it be because I’m prideful and could that be because I’m a man? Perhaps. I remember those words clearly and I honestly hope the next woman who comes into my life can come up with a reason to say them to me. Hell, I’ll even go as far as to say I’d like to hear her tell me she’s proud of me more than I want to hear her tell me she loves me.
I hope any woman who is reading this blog and has a man in their life tells him how proud she is of him. Not when he accomplishes something major like a new job or figured out how to fix something on his own without calling a repair man. Sure, “I’m proud of you” is a great thing to hear when we accomplish those things, but what stays with us more is the times when it’s told to us when we least expected it. Don’t wait for a reason to tell him you’re proud of him, think of one on your own and then say it accordingly. He might ask you what for, but if he doesn’t know, it was probably exactly what he needed to hear.
Men wake up everyday trying to be men or maintain their manhood, connected to that is keeping their pride intact, so when we hear our woman tell us she’s proud to of us for nor eason whatsoever, it’s encouraging. Let’s us know we’re doing the right thing and someone is paying attention.
For some women I know this may seem so basic. Maybe those women tell their man everyday that their proud of them, and to that I say, I’m proud of you, lady. But I’m pretty sure from things I have heard women tell men the words “I’m proud of you” aren’t being spoken enough. It’s not an emergency, no one needs to start screaming it from the mountain tops or make a big production out of it, just say it and say it soon. Not only he will appreciate it, he will probably never forget the time his woman said at the most random moment, “I’m proud of you.”