Five Reasons You Don’t Need To Follow The Person You’re Dating On Twitter
It took a couple of years before publications and various other media outlets began to understand and talk about Facebook’s impact on everyday relationships. Status updates, photo tagging, profile pictures, and the like now have the potential to make just as loud of a statement as newspaper engagement announcements or being spotted by other people out at dinner once did. Sure we still have our own rules about what to do and what not to do when dating someone else, but we’ve also added more largely due to Facebook.
Twitter still has a long way to go before it starts to affect our relationships the way Facebook has, and it may never be able to.. Twitter as a form of social media is way simpler than Facebook, but just like we have done with nearly every other innovative piece of technology, we the people find a way to make it complicate our lives and attach to it emotionally.
Since I joined Twitter two years ago, I have noticed how it sneakily can have an impact on relationships. If you’re not careful, following the person you’re datingon Twitter can be detrimental. This is not to say you should not follow someone you like or whom you’re dating, but it is to say it’s not nearly as necessary as say being friends with your significant other on Facebook. Today, five reasons why you don’t need to follow the person you’re dating.
IT’S LITERALLY THEIR VOICE DIGITIZED
Unless you’ve been living under a rock somewhere, you know the thing about Twitter is every update can only carry 140 characters. This essentially means each tweet is two sentences at most. That’s it. Then you tweet something else. If you’re following someone, you’re basically allowing them to talk to you all freaking day or as often as you check Twitter. The next thing you know, you two are at dinner, and one of you gets all excited to tell the other person something, and before they even say what they feel about what you just said they say, “Oh yeah, I saw you Tweet about that today.” Now whatever you said is already old and not as new as you thought it was in your head. Or, it can happen like this…
YOUR TWEETS SPARK A CONVERSATION HOURS LATER THAT YOU DON’T WANT TO HAVE
Earlier in the day, you tweeted about why a co-worker sucked, how your boss is a hater, and you took a Twitpic of some nasty mess someone left in the staff kitchen along with a tweet that said, “WHO LIVES LIKE THIS?! UGH!?” By the time you come home, you’re fine. The day at the office is behind you. You just want to eat some dinner, and do anything else but talk about the day at work you Tweeted about. But since you did Tweet about it and the person you’re dating follows you, they want to know more details about those workday Tweets you were sending out. When you say you don’t want to talk about it, they might leave it alone, but they also might shoot back, “Oh, you can tell all of your followers about your day at work but you can’t tell me? Okay. Okay. I see how it is.”
YOU KEEP ON RT SOME RANDOM PERSON OF THE OPPOSITE SEX
For those who don’t know, RT stands for Re-Tweeting, the act of tweeting what someone else tweeted. Think of it as being quoted in real life by someone else, like an acknowledgment that someone else said it better than you could or so good you had to share it with all of your followers. Keep on doing this over and over with someone you follow and watch the person you’re dating start getting suspicious. Next thing you know, she’s demanding to see your latest DMs (Direct Messages).
YOU WILL SEE SOME DARK SIDES OF THEIR MIND
A lot of people tweet the very thing first that comes to mind, it’s one of Twitters great attributes. You can either vent to the masses and find people feel the same way you do about something very random, or if no one has anything to say about what you just Tweeted at all, oh well. You feel better after you typed it anyway. This is what makes Twitter pretty cool, but also what makes me sign off every now and then too. The same might happen with you if you start following the person you like. For instance, they might Tweet, “I can’t STAND cats. I just want to kick them.” You didn’t know this about the person you’re dating, and now you’re all shocked because you just read a tweet that has you concerned you might be dating the Michael Vick of cats. But instead of breaking up with them, you unfollow them, which goes into the fourth reason you don’t need to follow the person you like on Twitter.
UNFOLLOWING SOMEONE IS MORE COLD BLOODED THAN YOU THINK
The act of unfriending or defriending someone on Facebook is often times mutually agreed upon and when it’s done, the reasons are generally understood. To do such a thing is to say, “I don’t want to see all those new pictures of you having fun with other people and constantly be reminded of you through your profile updates.” To unfollow someone on Twitter is to basically say, “I don’t want to read what you have to say and I care nothing about what you think of anything in this world, not even cats.” Ouch.
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