On This Whole ‘Let’s Be Friends’ Thing
A couple of weeks ago I asked a question on Twitter and I wanted to repose the question here, not because I want an answer (though I’m sure there will be plenty). What I’m really looking for is discussion about the question itself. Here’s it is:
Why do we say the best relationships come from friendship, but try to remain friends with someone after we’ve broken up with him or her?
Like, we say we can be friends, but do we ever mean it? And if we do mean it, doesn’t it keep the possibility of us being something more on the table? I’ve always valued friendship in the wake of a break up, not just because I wanted to avoid having been in those relationships in vain but also because I thought, if I care about this person as much as I say I do, well friendship will bring that truth to light.
So what, if anything, are we lying to ourselves about? Do we really need to be friends with a person before we get into a relationship with them or if we break up with a person we were in a relationship with, is the effort towards remaining friends a farce?
The Process: Workout was off to a slow start, but eventually got into a rhythm. Going to my mental gym tonight, aka, church.
The #UIGM Twitter Conversation: Tonight, it’s going down at 10 p.m. EST. I’ll be on Twitter for about 30 minutes discussing a topic of my choosing. It won’t be related to what I have posted today (that’s for discussion in the comments), but it will be, ummm, interesting. You’ll see if you join in tonight. Hashtag #UIGM