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On This Whole ‘Let’s Be Friends’ Thing

March 9th, 2011 20 comments

A couple of weeks ago I asked a question on Twitter and I wanted to repose the question here, not because I want an answer (though I’m sure there will be plenty). What I’m really looking for is discussion about the question itself. Here’s it is:

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Why I Would Join An Online Dating Site Just To Date A Chef

March 8th, 2011 6 comments

In the past, I have kind of come down hard on online dating. My philosophy has always been, for those who need to do it, enjoy, but I saw no such need to partake. To wit, last year I wrote a post entitled, “Online Dating: What Is, What It Isn’t” in which I said:

Have I ever met someone online first, then carried on in a relationship of some sorts with them in real life? Absolutely. No shame here. It’s happened to me a couple of times throughout my young dating life. But have I ever joined a dating website like Match.com and Eharmony.com in search of a companion, or at the very least, a great date? Hell no.

But the other night, I was watching “Top Chef All Stars” (trust me I’m going somewhere with this), and there was a competition in which the remaining chefs had to cook a meal for the judges and a loved one, whether it be their spouse or a family member. One of the contestants, Carla, was visited by her husband. While everyone was waiting for Carla to bring out her dishes, they asked her husband how they met. He said without hesitation, “Match.com” And I thought, This lucky guy!

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Poppin’ Questions Podcast Episode 29

March 8th, 2011 No comments

How to tell a woman she’s bad in bed, how to approach her in public, and three more quality questions for Jozen in Episode 29 of the Poppin’ Questions Podcast!

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What I Have Learned From The Women Who Quit Me

March 7th, 2011 16 comments

She said I was going to be fine, but I didn’t believe her.

First of all, how dare she put words in my mouth and thoughts in my head. I wanted to be with her and she didn’t want to be with me, and somehow she’s trying to convince me that if I just went along with this, I would be all the better for it. I thought she was wrong. I thought what I was feeling was real, but as it turned out, it was something else. Less like heart, more like ego.

My problem was, and has been for quite some time, not being able to distinguish between what is motivating me to pursue a woman: Is this heartfelt or is it prideful?

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Poppin’ Questions Podcast Episode 28

March 4th, 2011 1 comment

Jozen talks about work crushes, partners caught playing with themselves, and more on Episode 28 of the Poppin’ Questions Podcast!

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Five Reasons I Want Her To Start Dating Women Too

March 3rd, 2011 12 comments

Whenever a woman says she’s going to start dating women, I’m smart enough to know nine times out of 10 she’s being facetious. I never really take her comment seriously, as though all of a sudden she woke up and started feigning for the same things I feign for.

What she’s really trying to say in so many words is she’s ready to give up on men. She’s tired of me and men like me; tired of dealing with the same BS from my fellow brethren and I. We’re a handful, or a mouthful, or an earful, or awful. No matter the way she slices it, we’re full of it and she’s not taking it anymore. So she says out loud, I’m done with men, time for me to start dating women.

I get it, sort of. I say sort of because I understand how dealing with the opposite sex can be frustrating but, no matter how many times I’ve been frustrated with women, no matter how many times a woman has done something to make me despise her and her kind, I have never once threatened to swear them off for good and start dating other men. That would never happen. First of all, there’s the obvious: I don’t find other men attractive. Second of all I’m too much of a man to know men aren’t any easier to deal with than women.

But women, for whatever reason, seem to think the opposite. I find it pure comedy how women are so much more incapable of being friendly towards other women and yet never understand why a man can’t get along with his woman, which is why I challenge all women who threaten to start dating other women to back those words up Please do it. I’m totally fine with some girls coming over to my side of the world and here are five reasons why.

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As Fate Would Have It: ‘The Adjustment Bureau’ And Us

March 2nd, 2011 14 comments

There is a scene in The Adjustment Bureau — in theaters this Friday — I keep on replaying over and over again since I first saw it at a screening a couple of weeks ago.

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David Norris (played by Matt Damon) is already aware of The Adjustment Bureau, a group of Mad Men-esque guardian angels who control the fate of every human being. Few are aware of them but since David went against the adjustment bureau’s plan they wrote out for him all in pursuit of a ballerina named Elise Sellas (played by Emily Blunt) with whom he’s fell madly in love, the adjustment bureau force themselves in David’s life.

They tell him he and Elise are not supposed to be together, that his destiny (which they have already wrote out for him) is to be the next President of the United States. Elise’s destiny is to be the most renowned ballerina in the world. David calls their bluff, pursues Elise anyway. No sooner does David attend one of Elise’s shows does she fall and break her ankle. When he visits her at the hospital, David is told by one of the adjustment bureau officers the incident was not a mistake, it was a sign of what would happen to Elise’s career should David continue to see her. So David leaves Elise, in the hospital, unwilling to get in the way of her dreams and essentially choosing for him (and to some extent her) a fate that leaves them apart.

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Poppin’ Questions Podcast Episode 27

March 1st, 2011 4 comments

After being sick, Jozen returns to answer questions about men who take their time, his workout routine, and what a woman who always gets hit on at work should say to her colleagues, plus much more.

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Stories: “Call Your Bank”

March 1st, 2011 24 comments

Today’s story feels longer than usual so if you’d like, print it out and take it with you when you have some time to read it in its entirety. Or not. Doesn’t matter. Just a suggestion. Enjoy!

I hope I don’t get arrested for telling this story. Here goes nothing….

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