I’m Trying To Find My Friend His Future Wife
NOTE FROM JOZEN: PLEASE DISREGARD THE DIRECTIONS IN THE POST AS THE DEADLINE FOR SUBMISSIONS HAS PASSED AND WE HAVE MOVED ONTO PHASE II. IF YOU CHOOSE TO SUBMIT A PHOTO ANYWAY, WE WON’T RESPOND…OR MAYBE ONE OF MY OTHER FRIENDS WILL! HAHA!
This isn’t as deep as one might think, but a little deeper than others might assume.
I really am trying to find a woman my best friend can potentially marry and I am all about using this platform to aid in that search. What I’m not trying to do is establish myself as some sort of matchmaker. That’s not my game here. All I’m trying to do is be a good friend to a man who I consider a brother.
Far too often, people assume men don’t want to see their good friends walk down the aisle, and there are certain friends of mine who if they took that step I’d look at them as if they were crazy.
But not this friend of mine. He’s different not in terms of a personality but in terms of what he wants. Trust me, he’s ready to find a woman with whom he can spend the rest of his life, and if he wasn’t serious about it, then he wouldn’t allow me to take to my blog and help him out.
He and I have no idea if this is going to work or not. We’re just taking a chance here. As I always like to say if one way hasn’t been working, try another way. Well, for him, he’s been doing things the old-fashioned way and unfortunately it hasn’t been successful, so we came up with the bright idea of utilizing this blog to see what it gets us. I have a lot of female readers, and I’m guessing a great deal of these female readers are single and at a point where they too are into the idea of finding that one.
Well, ladies to whom this applies, my friend could very well be that one. If we met in real life, and he was around, I’d introduce you to him, but since that isn’t an option right now, allow me to tell you a few things about him in the form of some Frequently Asked Questions because I’m assuming if you’ve made it this far, you want to know more.
These are all based on questions I’ve already received from those who know about my mission and some I’m anticipating. All the questions are answered by yours truly on his behalf, so if you want to know more about him than what is provided in the answers to the questions below, I encourage you to email me at INFO@UNTILIGETMARRIED.COM. SERIOUS INQUIRIES ONLY!
Q: Why does your friend need you to hook him up?
A: Here’s the thing: He doesn’t. I offered to help him out because he’s about to move to a small town where women our age aren’t really in abundance. If he was moving to somewhere like New York City, D.C. or another city where there was an active and thriving dating scene, I would leave him to his own devices and he would clean up just fine.
So where is he moving to and why is he moving?
He’s moving to a small city in the Southern part of the U.S., but that’s as much as I’ll say. The specific city and state will be revealed to those who are seriously interested in getting to know him more. He’s moving because of a job opportunity.
Is he willing to do long distance for a while, move to where I am?
Okay, slow down ladies. First, he is willing to do long distance. Not only is he willing but amongst our crew, he is constantly a punchline for long distance relationship jokes. This guy is the long distance KING. Okay? I mean, seriously, I’m just happy we have airplanes, trains, and automobiles, because if we didn’t, he would take whole weeks to get to a woman he was interested in. As for moving to where the woman is? Eh, I’m going to say no, because the job opportunity he’s been given is too invaluable to leave anytime soon.
Okay, you keep talking about this job of his, so what’s he do?
Ummm…do you really want to know?
Yes, I really want to know.
Are you sure? Because once I tell you, there’s going to be all sorts of questions that follow.
Boy, stop, tell me what does he do for a living?
He’s a pastor.
A pastor, as in a preacher, as in a man of the cloth. He’s going to be the head of a church.
Yeah, I know, so next question cause I know you have one.
Does this mean he doesn’t…
Oh no, he does that.
You didn’t even let me finish though…
I know what you were going to ask. Look, he’s an ordained pastor. He went to school and studied to be a pastor like I went to school to study to be a journalist. Being a pastor of a church is what he does for a living, but off the pulpit, outside of the church, he’s one of the guys. He drinks with us, he parties with us, he listens to the same music we listen to, and dates like a sinner, which means, yes, he does have sex. That’s what you really want to know because that’s what everyone asks me whenever I talk about him and bring up his occupation.
But wait, if he’s a pastor how does he…
Stop right there. This is the one thing I hate. Whenever I try to tell someone about my friend people put him on a pedestal solely based off what he does for a living. First of all, he’s spent many years as a counselor to alchohol and drug abusers. He’s also been a hospice worker. This guy lives in the real world, not in the church world.
I’m simply saying I don’t know any pastors like that…
My friend, the one we’re talking about here, once told me, “The problem with a lot of churches is they try to get people into heaven instead of heaven into people.” That’s some food for thought. According to him, there are plenty who are able to balance a life on and off the pulpit without keeping things hidden from public view. But not only that, you’re right, you don’t know any pastors like him and you don’t know any guys like him. He can explain everything better than I can, so for those who are interested, and want to know more about how he does that balancing act, you’ll have to talk to him.
Okay, cool. Back to the other stuff, how tall is he?
I want to say like 5’8. I don’t know. He’s not short and he has stature.
Can he cook?
He’d rather you cook, and I’m going to be honest, I’ve had his food, I’d rather you cook too.
How old is he?
29, and if you do the math, that means he’s running his own church before he turned 30.
Where did he go to school?
Undergrad at Howard University, Divinity School at Harvard.
Is he into older women, younger women?
He’ll go as young as 24 and he’ll go something like as high as 36. But if you fall out of these age ranges and are still interested, see if you can open up his mind.
Does he have a particular type?
Man, I’ve seen him with all types of women, but mostly black women.
Anything else he likes in a woman?
I’ll allow those who are interested in getting to know him better to talk more about the personality type he likes, but physically, here’s what I have observed over the years: He likes pretty women. As he says, he’s a little shallow. So if you’re going to send a pic, make it your best one. He also likes a woman with a big ‘ol booty. That’s right. I said it, and he may not like that I said it, but I figure better me than him. Most women I’ve seen him with have some back. But just like the age thing, if you don’t have back and you have a pretty face, I encourage you to email anyway.
How long have you two been friends?
Going on 11 years.
Why are you trying to get your boy married and not worried about getting married yourself?
Two things, here. First: This ain’t about me. Second: If it was about me, this is what people would call good karma.
He’s your friend though, and I’ve read your blog I know how you are, how do I know this guy isn’t like you?
My ex-girlfriend once asked me how a guy like me can be friends with a guy like him because he’s so much the opposite of me when it comes to relationships. We would get into arguments and she would be like, “You need to talk to [insert my friend’s name here].” Now I’m not saying he’s a saint (no pun intended) or he’s without problems. But when it comes to relationships, the guy has always been serious about them and never takes them lightly. Besides, if he was anything like me, I’d just hook myself up instead.
Okay, so what do I have to do to get a good look at your friend and learn more about him?
Again, that email address is INFO@UNTILIGETMARRIED.COM. I would suggest you send a picture if you’re interested or send a picture of the friend who you think might be interested. The sooner you send a picture of yourself, the sooner you get a picture of him. If he’s interested, we’ll reach out and he’ll take things from there. It’s really simple.
Also, this is important for everyone to know so I’m going to write this in all caps. WE WILL NOT PUBLISH YOUR PICTURE OR ANYTHING ABOUT YOU ON THIS BLOG IF YOU’RE SERIOUS ABOUT GETTING TO KNOW HIM BETTER!
Like I said, this is not some ploy to establish myself as a matchmaker, so I’m not trying to hook my boy up with someone and chronicle their every move on this blog. Of course, if they wanted to, I’d share how their journey is going, but as of right now, no. Not that kind of party. All I’m simply trying to do is use this platform I have created for myself to help out one of my best friends. This man deserves a good woman and I know I have more than a few of those who are reading this.
UPDATE: Already we’ve received interest and some follow-up questions. THANK YOU! I encourage everyone who is interested to send those questions to the email above. I repeat, ONLY IF YOU OR YOUR FRIEND IS INTERESTED. We’re going to be answering some of those questions in a podcast that will air this week. You can also submit a question about my friend anonymously via my formspring.