The Unbearable Ego of Women In Relationships
All my single ladies, stand back for a minute and allow me to speak on your behalf.
You might not need me to do this, but I’m doing it anyway because someone needs to straighten out these girls in relationships, gloating about their happiness like their personal life should be featured in an episode of “Cribs”.
Ladies in relationships, shut up about how wonderful it is to be in a relationship. Nobody cares. And you know why nobody cares? Because it’s nobody’s business but your own. You may think it’s because we’re bitter, single, and lonely, and surely some of the hate directed towards you stems from any one of these three emotions, but as for the rest of us people who are single and sane, we’re just tired of hearing you boast about something you never acquired through hard work.
Bragging about having a significant other is like bragging that you won the Lottery. You got lucky or you were blessed, however you choose to look at these things, but you’re acting like you stayed up late nights studying for this moment and passed the bar in flying colors. No, you didn’t. Let me tell you what happened.
You got chose.
That’s right. Some guy saw you walk into some spot or walking down some street or met you at some friend’s party, and they approached you. Correctly, I might add. The end result, you two live happily ever after. That is nothing to brag about so much as it is something to be thankful for, and yet you want to walk around these streets acting like you knew it was going to happen because you had the right recipe cooking all along.
People in relationships, women especially, love to act like now that they’re in a relationship they’re some sort of authority figure when it comes to the topic. I tell people all the time, I don’t write about relationships, I write about my experiences in those relationships. This does not make me an authority and anybody whoever thought it did has missed the point of this blog entirely. I don’t write about this because I know it all, I write about it because I care. Know the difference between passion for a subject and knowledge of it.
The fact is, none of us know what it takes to make a relationship work, not even the people who are in one. We certainly know what it takes to make our own relationships work, but what works for us does not mean it will work for the next two people who get together. Meanwhile there are people who have the title of someone’s significant other but are mistaking it for a Doctorate in the subject of Love.
Six months ago when they were single, they had no idea what to do on a first date, now ever since they met their boo, they think all first dates should happen a specific way in order to get a specific outcome. It’s like, if the guy her friend went out on a date with invites her over for dinner instead of taking her out for dinner, he’s doing it wrong all because when her boyfriend asked her out on a first date he took her out to eat and didn’t ask her to come over for the first three weeks they were dating. What she doesn’t know is the reason her boyfriend kept her away from his apartment for those first three weeks is because his last girl was still moving out her stuff and living there part time.
Realize, ladies in relationships, you don’t know half of the reason why or how you are in a relationship. Literally, half. That other half of knowledge belongs to your man, who I might add, does not go around bragging that he’s in love. He will never tell you all the reasons he chose you, reasons like: He read somewhere men in relationships are more successful in their careers than single men. He doesn’t tell you this is one of the reasons he’s with you because he knows you can’t handle hearing something like that. The other thing about men is we keep our emotions on the humble.
The times I’ve been in love, I’ve never told my boys, “Yo, this is the best thing ever!” You know why? Cause I was thinking about more important things, like staying in love. Relationships humble men, open us up and have us walking this earth with our chests busted wide open by vulnerability. Meanwhile women walk around like can’t no one say a damn thing to them because their status on Facebook says “In A Relationship”. And if it says “Married”, oh my God! Don’t even bother telling that woman she didn’t have the right-away. She will come back to you so hard with the, “What do you mean I don’t have the right away, you see this ring on my finger?” you will forget how to drive.
I’m happy for every woman who has a good man on their arm and I would tell them this, but they’re too busy shouting it from the rooftops.