A Picture of Dan to Help me #GetDanADate
I know it’s been a couple of weeks since my last post. Like most lulls in my blogging, the intent is never to stay away for as long as I’m gone. Trust me, if I could get back into 2009-2010 blog shape, where I was writing five days a week, I would.
But this time, part of my absence was to let the last blog post I wrote breathe a little bit. For those who remember, I introduced everyone to Dan, a single, 36-year-old man who reached out to me to participate in my blind date column for the New York Post. You can click here if you want to read the details of my first encounter with Dan, but most of you know why he is a special case. When we met, he admitted to me he has a rather extreme case of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and he has Aspergers syndrome.
Since that post, many readers have asked me if I have found Dan a date, and unfortunately I have not. I can point to his condition and say that’s why I’ve had no luck, but in Dan’s defense, finding people for this column is never easy. And once I have people sign up, getting them into the column can still be difficult. There are some people in my files who haven’t been out on a date and signed up months ago. The logistics of how this section work make no sense, and my job is to make them make sense so people can open up their Sunday edition of the New York Post and read Meet Market.
One reason I probably haven’t had any luck with finding women who are willing to give Meet Market a shot as a potential date for Dan is because I realized, even with his mental conditions, people still care how he looks. You can tell me that doesn’t matter, but I’ve worked at this job long enough to know, people may not be able to judge a book by a cover, but a nice cover makes people pick up the book.
With Dan’s permission I have posted the picture you see of him below. This is one of the pictures he took when he came to the Post offices. As you can see, he’s a reasonably handsome man. In the last post I described him as a cross between Tom Hanks as Forrest Gump and Adam Levine. Was I right or was I right? For the ladies who are like, “Yeah, but how tall is he?” He’s 5’11. For the ladies who think, “Yeah but look at the way he’s dressed.” I say, look at the way you’re dressed.
Don’t be mean. If you don’t think Dan is attractive and say so in the comments, I will remove them because you’re ugly on the inside.
Dan certainly doesn’t make my job easier, but he doesn’t make it harder. The reason I am amplifying his case more than the other beautiful people who sign up to partake in Meet Market is because I’m pretty sure none of them can say what Dan said to me: “I’ve never had the privilege of finding someone who will love me for who I am.” Even if that is a feeling they can relate to, their lack of love is probably not tied to a mental condition like Dan. Dan hasn’t been with a woman in a romantic way since he was 19-years-old. That is 17 years without a romantic moment or memory, and he deserves to have at least one.
As I said in the last post, Dan is very clear on one thing he wants in a woman: The ability to be comfortable with being in control. He also said his therapist said he might be more compatible with a woman who is younger than him, around the age of 25, since his inexperience with romantic relationships is probably that of someone 11 years his junior.
If you are a woman over the age of 21, single, and live in NYC, and think you would be able to go out on one date with someone like Dan, please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. If you know of a woman who fits this description, please send them my email and encourage them to sign up. All I ask is that if you do sign up, don’t do it as a charitable act towards Dan. He does not need anyone’s charity. I want to send him on one date with someone who can potentially lead to numerous dates. I never promised him his future wife, I’m just trying to find him a nice woman who wants to meet a nice guy like Dan for one date.