A reader asks…
What happens when a man climaxes emotionally and pyscholgically?
Here is my awkward answer
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A man looks pathetic when he has an allergy attack.
No man has ever gotten laid in the middle of an allergy attack.
Every man thinks sex is a remedy to a woman’s cold.
No man cares about getting a damn cold.
If a man hasn’t had sex with his woman in two or more days, he cannot make one reference to his skills in the bedroom.
If a woman hasn’t had sex with her man in two or more days, she cannot use sex as a bargaining chip to get him to do something.
Should a couple breakup after a year of dating one another, the only acceptable terms on which to get back together is if the couple gets engaged.
Ladies, whenever you make your man watch a show like “Say Yes To The Dress” or “Bridezillas” you are actually discouraging him from getting married.
Fellas, whenever a woman is watching “Snap” she is taking mental notes.
Women only let their man watch the same episode of SportsCenter three times in a row because the athlete highlights are eye candy.
A woman will leave her man for Michael Ealy and Brad Pitt even if those two guys have served time for domestic abuse.
A man will not leave his woman for Halle Berry or Angelina Jolie because it’s obvious those two women are crazy.
A man will sleep with Halle Berry or Angelina Jolie while in a relationship.
Every man thinks the new guy is taller.
Every woman thinks the new girl is uglier.
If a man cheats on his woman, all she wants to know is if he loves the other woman.
If a woman cheats on her man, all he wants to know is if the other guy was better in bed.
‘It’s different’ means he was better…and different.
Leaving the television on during sex is better than listening to music while having sex.
Not every man cares if his woman can cook, but every man loves a woman who can cook.
Not every woman cares if her man can fix things, but every woman loves a man who can fix things.
Communication really is everything.
Living together, when you’re getting along with the other person, is like the best sleepover ever.
You have your whole life to be single.
Let me clear a couple of things up before I get into the main point of today’s post.
Now that I’ve gotten the disclaimers out of the way, let’s move forward and talk about why I want all of my black readers to take a non-black friend or family member (cause I know some of you all have them) to see Think Like A Man, which comes out in theaters this Friday.
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For those who can’t stream or download the entire podcast or prefer to hear me answer one question at a time, watch the segments on YouTube. This week, you can watch as I answer questions and cook dinner at the same time. Quite impressive, right?
Anyway, below, I answer the first question: A reader wants to know how he should handle a girlfriend who is always trying to find a way out of hanging out with him. My answer to the second question — “He Changed, She’s Worried” — can be found here.
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Did any of you read this story yet?
“The Downside To Cohabitation”
I urge any of you interested in the topic to do so, especially those who are thinking about living with your significant other sometime in the near future. The article, written by clinical psychologist Meg Jay, specifically targets young couples still in their 20s and it offers up some interesting facts Jay has picked up from her own research and years spent practicing psychology.
Jay writes:
Couples who cohabit before marriage (and especially before an engagement or an otherwise clear commitment) tend to be less satisfied with their marriages — and more likely to divorce — than couples who do not. These negative outcomes are called the cohabitation effect.
Most of us are aware of the cohabitation effect, even if we don’t know what to call it. When an article from an authority as credible as The New York Times comes out basically saying the same things we’ve always known, it only serves to support every reason we ever had for not wanting to live with our partner before marriage. We see the numbers and read the horror stories about the cohabitation effect from such a young age, we go into our 20s convinced we will never make the same mistake ourselves.
All your life you said if ever you were lucky enough to just be in the same room as Tyra Banks, you would take your shot. That’s all you needed was proximity. When you used to have her poster up on the wall in your childhood bedroom, you would talk to the poster and say, “One day, Tyra. One day.” You meant it too, because you knew she always wanted just a regular guy. That’s what she would say in interviews over and over again, “I just want a regular, normal nice guy I can bring home to my Mom.” And you knew you would always be the epitome of normal: an everyday guy who woke up, worked, had a little fun, and took showers on a regular basis just like everyone else.
So the other night, you are at The Darby (a spot I highly recommend for food and drinks), sitting at the bar with one of your boys, enjoying a Manhattan. The place isn’t too crowded. As a matter of fact, it was a rather quiet night in what is currently one of New York City’s most popular eateries. The friend you are with, one of your best friends who has known you for 12 years, knows exactly how you feel about Tyra Banks. He remembers how one year you actually tried to do a paper on the significance of Tyra Banks’ Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition cover but because your professor was a hater, he didn’t allow it, but whatever. That’s all in the past.
You and your friend are having a conversation, about what, you can’t recall and it really doesn’t matter because all of a sudden in walks Tyra Banks. Your friend sees her first, hits you on the shoulder, and says, “Tyra Banks, Tyra Banks, Tyra Banks, dude Tyra Banks!” Before you even can turn around you smell the beauty and then as your head turns, she’s walking right past you, headed straight to a table with some guy we’re just going to name Whatever aka Non Factor.
Now was your chance. Here it was, the moment you had been waiting for your whole life. Tyra Banks sitting at a table approximately 15 steps away from you. Even with Non Factor sitting next to her, if you would be so bold, you could approach the table politely and say hello, and what a big fan of hers you are and that you used to have her posters all up on your wall. You could tell her that she looks just as beautiful in real life as she does in pictures and on television. You could tell her all the things you’ve ever wanted to tell her like how you think Chris Webber is an idiot and no one could love her like you could love her.
But instead, you do the exact opposite. You do nothing. Absolutely nothing. We can count the effort you made to try and not stare at Tyra Banks for an inordinate amount of time, but we won’t. You froze up and tried not to drool on yourself and by the time you came to your senses, and realized you missed the opportunity of a lifetime, Tyra Banks, the woman you’ve loved from afar ever since you knew what love was, was gone.
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The best job I ever had in college was working as the student newspaper’s Arts & Entertainment editor. The title gave me perks usually reserved for guys who knew a guy or the women the guys and the guy they knew wanted to impress. One of those perks was access to advanced film screenings for pretty much every movie released in theaters during my tenure, and each invite allowed for me to bring one guest.
Even back then I was a savvy dater, so of course I used the advanced screening passes as an opportunity to take out some woman I was interested in getting to know. Yes, I know, a movie date as the first date is the most unimaginative activity in the history of dating, but this just wasn’t any normal “Hey, iFriday night, want to go to the movies?”-type of date. No, this was entirely different. Usually, it went something like this:
ME: Hey, want to go see 8 Mile three weeks before everyone else?
HER: I am not coming to your dorm room to watch some bootleg movie. You have got to do better.
ME: Baby, who said anything about a bootleg or my dorm room? I have a pass to an advanced screening because I’m covering the film for my paper.
HER: Oh…
ME: So does that change things?
HER: Yeah, we can do that.
ME: Sike! (Just kidding. I didn’t say that. Well, once, but moving on…)
The only time movie dates are acceptable is when you and your date can see the movie before the general population. Even then, they’re questionable, but no one passes up on an opportunity to say to their friends, “Oh, I saw that movie before it came out.”
Because I’m a nice guy, I am giving you all an opportunity to find out what it feels like to say the same thing to your friends. By now, most of you have heard or seen the trailer for ‘Think Like A Man’ the film adaptation of Steve Harvey’s popular book. If you haven’t, the trailer is below. If you have, and you’re not sure whether or not you should see it, maybe passes to one of the advanced screenings will make it easier for you to decide.
Here’s how this is going to work:
Ever since H-Town said “listening to some Marvin Gaye all night long,” the legacy of Marvin Gaye’s music has been somewhat commercialized in ways that disgust me. “Let’s Get It On,” “I Heard It Through The Grapevine,” even “What’s Going On” a song that has never not been fitting for the times when it is played; all of these fantastic songs are no longer such. I mean, they’re still good, but tolerable? It’s honestly gotten to the point where I hear them and I don’t even listen to 30 seconds, I skip right along to the next song.
But this is not the case for the majority of Marvin’s catalog. Die-hard Marvin fans know Gaye was more than just some bedroom Lothario who was all about getting panties thrown at him. I mean, that was the life he lived, but I’m saying, his music went much deeper, and ran a gamut of emotions. For my money, his best moments on record aren’t about lust or even love, but rather, love lost.
Most of you probably think this post is going to be about something wildly inappropriate. Too bad it’s not, you perverts.
This is about eating actual food in front of a woman, and how a man should go about doing such a thing. This is not a gentleman’s guide to eating a meal in front of a woman, this is my guide. Don’t get me wrong, I too am a gentleman, but when it comes to food, I am a savage.
So on this brand new edition of the Poppin’ Questions Podcast, I’m doing something a little bit different.
Since some of you can’t listen to the podcast whether it be through Podomatic or iTunes, Jermaine and I decided to make this accessible via YouTube. At the same time we recorded my responses to this week’s five questions, we also video recorded my responses. The same thing you hear in the audio is the same thing we recorded for YouTube.
A couple of programming notes to consider before tuning in to watch on YouTube:
I was reluctant to do this because I’m not comfortable with watching myself on video. Still, Jermaine and I thought this is a necessary evil.
The videos really aren’t meant to be watched. Nothing extraordinary is happening. I’m just answering these questions into the camera. I’m not dancing, I’m not cooking, I’m not even standing up, so don’t watch these with this anticipation something amazing is going to happen. The only amazing thing in these videos is what I’m saying.
I’m always going to wear a hat in these videos. I like hats, so if any of you hat designers want to send me a hat to wear on an upcoming podcast, hit me at info@untiligetmarried.com and I’ll send you the address where you can mail it. Dead serious about this.
Here is the first question via YouTube. To see all the questions on YouTube, click here to go to Until I Get Married’s YouTube channel. Below the video is the audio podcast for you to stream or download.
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