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Archive for December, 2010

Poppin’ Questions Podcast Episode 17

December 30th, 2010 5 comments

After a two-week hiatus, Jozen returns in a special extended podcast where he discusses threesomes and why a man just leaves after he gets caught cheating.

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Her Dream Man Is Standing Near Me, But I’m The One Talking

December 30th, 2010 26 comments

I know a man, he’s a friend of mine. By any measure we want to use, he is a good man. If we measure the quality of a man by education, he has that in spades. If we measure the quality of a man by physical attractiveness, I have no opinion of him, but as a couple of my ex-girlfriends have said to me, “He’s a good looking guy.” If we want to measure the quality of a man by his career, he has a stable job that involves helping others. If we want to measure the quality of a man by the good that is in his heart, well, he’s one of my best friends for a reason; as a matter of fact, if my sister were single and I had to choose one friend to match her up with, it would be this man. If we want to measure the quality of a man by his relationships with other women, he’s never cheated and never had a one night stand. If we want to measure the quality of man by his willingness to settle down and have a family, he has spoken to me countless times about how he’s ready for that phase in his life.

Did I mention he is single? Yeah, that too.

So having said all that, are any of you ladies interested in meeting this man? Probably so, but unfortunately you won’t. Here’s why.

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New Rule: If I Think Her Friend Is Cuter, I Can’t Date Her

December 29th, 2010 27 comments

Back in November, I asked my readers what was the best way to approach a girl whose friend I already tried to date unsuccessfully. While some commented encouraging words and noteworthy ways to solve this predicament, the vast majority of them emphatically told me don’t even think about it.

After much consideration of their words against me trying to date the friend of a girl I already failed to date, I have to say I agree. But admittedly, my reasons aren’t as noble as subscribing to some made up girl code most women want to try and administer upon me. The reason why I will no longer try to date the friend of a girl I already tried to date is because I have decided I will no longer date a girl with cuter friends in the first place.

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It May Take Your Whole Life To Get There

December 28th, 2010 29 comments

So tonight, I leave from my annual holiday visit with my family in California and head back to New York City. For those who follow me on Twitter or see me on Facebook, you can probably tell I had the time of my life. Since I only visit my family once a year, I usually make the trips extended stays. This year was no different, as I’ve been here since December 16.

But now, it’s time to go back to the city I call home. Leaving isn’t bitter sweet. I look forward to going back, being my own man, sleeping in my own apartment, and seeing all my friends, some of whom I also consider family. The other reason I’m leaving with a smile on my face? I have finally lived to see the day when my family is in full bloom.

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Five S*x and Dating New Year’s Resolutions I Hope I Stick To

December 27th, 2010 11 comments

Did you all miss me? Good. It’s nice to be missed.

When I returned home for the holidays, I had intentions of maintaining the blog, but after last Monday’s post, I fell ill and decided to take the week off. The break was necessary and even though it was the longest amount of time I ever went without posting, I felt it was for the best.

But now, with one full day left before I head back to New York City, I’m getting back into the swing of things.

And so today we begin anew. Like I do every Monday, I’m kicking things off with a list of five dating/sex resolutions I plan to abide by once the clock strikes 12 a.m. on January 1, 2011. Most of these resolutions won’t be sudden changes in behavior, as these are things I’ve kind of outgrown, but apt to regress to from time to time. Though I’m not necessarily a big believer in the idea of resolutions, I do feel another year is a clean slate, one in which I have a chance to do things differently. So with that being said, here are five things I’m going to do (or stop doing) regarding sex and dating in 2011.

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Five Things I’m Learning About Babies Via My Niece

December 20th, 2010 17 comments

It’s not like being around babies was a foreign experience to me prior to meeting my niece. I’ve met plenty of babies, been around them numerous times, but never have I been as hands on with them as I am with my niece.

Ever since I met her, I want to be around my niece every chance I get. Just now my sister came by  the house to drop her off for my mom and I to babysit for the day. When my sister walked in with my niece in the car seat, I hurried over to pick her up, only to see she was still sleeping. I felt like the first kid awake at a sleepover, waiting for his friends to wake up. I couldn’t wait for her eyes to open.

Needless to say, this new experience being around my niece, all pro-baby like never before, has taught me some lessons. In a little less than a week, here are five I have learned.

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This Being An Uncle Thing Should Be Easy

December 17th, 2010 14 comments

The only thing I can write about today is the moment I just experienced meeting my six month old niece for the very first time in person.

When she was born on June 11, I must admit, I didn’t feel too different. I knew I was an Uncle, but I didn’t quite know what that meant, I didn’t know how to act. I was so clueless, I even wrote a post asking all my readers to tell me what makes a good uncle and to share memories they have of their uncles. For me, this was important, because I grew up with some great uncles, and I cared about being the same.

But now, as her and my sister take a nap in their room, I realize being a great uncle to my niece is going to be easy. I know that may sound egotistical, but allow me to explain.

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I Just Called To Tell You That I Found Someone New

December 16th, 2010 34 comments

Then I CC’d every girl I’d see see ’round town

© – André 3000

I wasn’t cc’d or even sent a text message, at least my ex had the courtesy call and tell me she was going to have a baby. The only thing more shocking than the news itself was the call itself. We made a deal early in our breakup to cut off contact with one another and with the exception of a couple of missteps by yours truly, we both did a great job of holding up our ends of the bargain. So when I received a voicemail from her telling me to call her back, I was taken aback. When I finally did get back in touch with her and she shared the news with me, I was taken down.

For my long time readers, you know how the rest of the story goes, so I’ll refrain from divulging more details because today’s post isn’t about that specific phone call. Today’s post is about the phone call, or the email, or the text, or the instant message, or, in a very rare instance, the face-to-face news we receive from a past lover that they are moving on in some form or fashion with someone else. Why do they bother and more importantly why do we care?

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We’re Talking About Sleeping With Women With No Nose

December 15th, 2010 18 comments

Two days ago, I called up my boy to discuss with him yesterday’s post. This was before the piece was published. What I often do is call up at least one of my friends to bounce an idea off them, not for the sake of approval, but to get a better sense of how well it resonates to men besides myself.

As anybody who read yesterday’s post already knows, I wrote about this idea that a lot of women have somewhat of an egotistical attitude about their bedroom skills. And it’s because of this egotistical attitude that they do not know how to take a man’s compliments whenever he speaks highly of those skills. When I asked my boy his thoughts they were kind of jumbled and non-descript, a lot of “yeah, I feel you” and “mmm hmmm.”

Last night, the same friend calls me and soon as I pick up the phone he says, “Yo, man, my bad. I had a girl here so I couldn’t really get into the conversation like I wanted to, but man, you were spitting some gems last night, let me tell you…” From there, my friend went on his own mini rant on the topic I wrote about, which segued into a conversation about other past experiences with other women. It was the conversation he wanted to have the night before but because he was in the company of a female, he had to refrain until he was free.

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Advice From Hot Girls: How Do I Tell A Girl She’s Great In Bed?

December 14th, 2010 34 comments

I’m sorry for the long delay, folks. Today I’ve been trying to wrap up things at the office. Only two more days before I head back home to California for the holidays, and I have barely anytime to do anything other than handle this work biz. So please, forgive me?


Now, for today’s post, considering it’s so late in the day, I wanted to think of something quick. So here it is, just a quick question for all my female readers on behalf of more than a few male readers.

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