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This Being An Uncle Thing Should Be Easy

December 17th, 2010 Leave a comment Go to comments

The only thing I can write about today is the moment I just experienced meeting my six month old niece for the very first time in person.

When she was born on June 11, I must admit, I didn’t feel too different. I knew I was an Uncle, but I didn’t quite know what that meant, I didn’t know how to act. I was so clueless, I even wrote a post asking all my readers to tell me what makes a good uncle and to share memories they have of their uncles. For me, this was important, because I grew up with some great uncles, and I cared about being the same.

But now, as her and my sister take a nap in their room, I realize being a great uncle to my niece is going to be easy. I know that may sound egotistical, but allow me to explain.

Being around babies makes me uncomfortable. They’re so delicate and I’m so clumsy, so needless to say, we never get along really well. My niece is different, and now I know exactly what people mean when they say they may not like children but they’re fine with their own. I never care for being around children, but as soon as my sister opened up the door, I grabbed my niece and didn’t let her go for a good minute. Even as she sleeps, I wish I could pick her up and hold her.

Holding my niece, wanting to watch my niece, wanting to play with my niece, wanting to teach my niece about this crazy thing we call life is all I want to do now. A friend of mine called me earlier today because he had an extra ticket to the Miami Heat/New York Knicks game, box seats at that. Normally not being able to go would have made me upset, but as I was talking on the phone with him, my niece giggled. I’m fine with watching the game on TV and I’m fine with missing anything else for the sake of spending more time with my niece, and also, my family.

Seeing my sister as a mother, seeing her boyfriend as a dad, seeing my mom as a grandmother, it’s a sight to behold. For those who don’t know, my sister is three years my junior, but with her daughter in her arms, I feel like she’s just so much older than me now, like I’m the one who has to grow up and she’s the responsible adult.

I’m telling you all, this uncle thing is crazy. It really is, and I may be to new to it, but when I say I’m ready to do it, I couldn’t be more sure of myself. When I said being an uncle was going to be easy, it’s only because I can’t imagine what about it would make it hard. There’s nothing about being an uncle I don’t want to do. Sign me up for everything it involves because I’m ready for this next phase in my life more than I’ve been ready for anything else.

Of course, when people read this they might think all of this gushing I’m doing over my niece is coded language for wanting a kid of my own. As if to say now that I see my sister with a baby, it’s starting to spawn thoughts of wanting one of my own, but I really think that’s a stretch. I’m not ready nor am I saying I want to be a father anytime soon. All I’m simply saying is I’m ready to be an uncle, and I look forward to every minute of this experience.


I’m just going to wait until next week to record the next edition of the podcast. You all still have time to submit questions for consideration at my Formspring.

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  • DJ

    Priceless! I have been waiting for this post! I found myself excited that you would finally meet your niece!

  • lelechigyrl

    This is beautiful. Ive experienced something close to this when I met my nephew Christopher for the first time. Its a feeling that makes you feel incredibly responsible in the best way. I am thankful! Thank you for sharing this.

  • Reecie

    aww how sweet! children are life changing, for their parents, and for everyone else in the family. and so special around the holidays 🙂

  • Tanya Maia

    awwww! we have the same birthday!!!

    This is great Jozen. Really happy you’re enjoying unclehood!

  • Jubilance1922

    Great post. I can totally relate, I became an auntie last year & now I have 3 nieces (including a set of twins) and a new baby nephew, and they are an absolute joy. I was anti-children until I became an aunt, and now I all I want to do is hang with my little people.

  • Cheekie

    I know exactly what you mean, Jozen. I love my 3 yr old nephew to pieces (seriously, he is my weakness) and I get all kinds of gushy feelings about him. I love being around him. But, by the same token… I’m glad I can give him back to his mama. I’m not ready for kids, but I love being an aunt. Of which I became pretty young! 🙂

  • Islandgirl145

    The day I became an aunt was the most amazing day of my life. I love my niece with all my heart and although at times she feels like my little sister, she is a wonderful gift that God gave me and my family. Enjoy your time at home with your family!

  • Katina Denosi

    Congratulations, Jozen!! (I love the pronunciation of your name by the way) And I truly understand what you mean by wanting to embrace being an uncle & excited about that as opposed to wanting to rush into parenthood and making your own family. It’s great that you are able to focus on being an awesome uncle because you get to watch as your sister and her boyfriend explore this path through parenthood and learn different techniques to take note of along with stumbling blocks to prepare for. There is definitely no guide or manual to once you become a dad, so a bit of hands-on experience always helps out. Enjoy your vacation with your family & brand new niece. Make sure you take a lot of pictures because they definitely grow up faster than you can believe!!

  • Mwangirobert86

    Thanx for the post dude that was great.
    I got two nephews who are just my world. they are 5 and 3 yrs old and its like they believe each word I say! Which means i gotta be extra careful what i say to them.
    Great post!

  • Scarlett D

    I can’t help but see the great parallels to the sacrifices of being in a relationship. Love defies logic in all forms. I can’t help but see your heart swelling in this post. It’s beautiful. I’m glad you finally got to meet her, my niece and nephews are far from me as well and time spent with them is so precious.

  • Lyoness

    I know exactly how you feel. I became an “aunt” when my cousin had her first 2 children back to back. Our family was overjoyed and I love those little people more than anything. We’re the same age and grew up down the street from each other so we’re more like sisters. I was back home for Thanksgiving and could’ve gone out with friends. I chose instead to kick it with the 5 year old and play “makeover slumber party” complete with makeup, a facial, and fashion magazines. I made it educational by making her spell words from the magazines. LOL! Complete bliss and I couldn’t imagine it any other way. Jozen, enjoy every minute with baby girl because they grow up SO fast! 🙂

  • Ashley !

    Awwww!! 🙂

  • Zy

    absolutely beautiful! if you feel this way now, imagine how amazing being a dad will be for you when the time comes…

  • Violet

    Beautiful! Thank you for sharing.